Meet Justin, The Real-Life 40-Year-Old Virgin

Justin Disher is just a regular guy. The Canadian, from the Niagara region in Ontario, turned 41 in December and has an active social life. He's a keen amateur photographer who mainly shoots local sports, and he also manages two minor hockey teams. He has, however, had problems with his vision for the past 15 years after he had LASIK eye surgery and has been on disability for that long as a result.

But there's something slightly more unusual about Justin, something which he makes no bones about announcing to the world. As he wrote on his Twitter profile, accompanied by a sadface emoji: "Being a 40-year-old virgin is basically my only accomplishment in life so far."

Yes - Justin is a real life 40-year-old (well, 41-year-old) virgin. And - as he should be - he's absolutely fine with it.

"Initially, I made the decision on religious grounds to wait until marriage before having sex," he tells LADbible. "While I still feel that is the right decision for me personally, I'm much less judgemental about those who choose differently now that I have gotten older."

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Credit: supplied

While most people would probably be sheepish or self-conscious about publically proclaiming they're still a virgin at 40, Justin had his reasons - and very good ones at that - for being so upfront about it. "After many years of bullying in primary and secondary school," he says, "I learned to use humour as a weapon to diffuse difficult or uncomfortable situations.

"Yes, sometimes my humour was taken the wrong way and it led to getting beat up even more, but often it would lighten the mood and the bullies would find someone else to pick on if I made them laugh.

"There is often an underlying truth being revealed, even when I am just trying to be funny and make people laugh. At the time of my post, I wanted to make people laugh - but at the same time let them know it's not always easy being single and [a] virgin."

That's not to say that Justin always wants to be a virgin, but he also says that, right now, it's not really that big of a deal to him. His friends and family all know and, despite some gentle joking, are all cool with it - again, as they should be.

"It's been something I have been teased about often over the years by family and friends," admits Justin, "but not really in a negative or mean-spirited way. I am so comfortable with my decision that I'm often the one initiating the teasing and I'm not afraid make fun of myself on social media - as you likely saw."


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Nor does Justin feel any pressure to lose his virginity any time soon, which, given the stigma that surrounds being a virgin, is incredibly encouraging to hear.

"The only pressure I feel is time," he says. "I don't feel any external pressure from others. I wouldn't bring myself to have casual sex, so my only reason for having sex would be to raise a family. And if I want to raise a family, I'm not sure that I would want to wait much longer.

"While I am quite sure that biologically I can reproduce for many years to come I'm not sure how comfortable I'd be with the idea of raising children at an advanced age like say, David Letterman has done.

"Financially, I worry that I would not be able to afford the cost of raising a family so I don't think fatherhood is in my future, but if the right person came along I would definitely consider it."

And as for the question that's really on everyone's mind, the answer is no. He hasn't yet watched the classic 2005 comedy, The 40-Year-Old Virgin.

Credit: Universal Pictures
Credit: Universal Pictures

"As much as I love Steve Carrell and have watched many of his other films," says Justin, "I just can't bring myself to watch this movie. My assumption is that the movie portrays virgins negatively which is why I have yet to see it.

"One of my Facebook friends actually created a meme of me using the poster from the movie shortly after it came out and it was widely viewed on my Facebook profile. That's actually how I became aware of the movie in the first place.

"I'm sure I'll eventually get around to watching the movie one day."

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Mischa Pearlman

Mischa is a freelance journalist usually based in either New York or London. He has written for Kerrang!, Record Collector, NME, the New York Observer and FLOOD magazine, among others. Contact him at [email protected]

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