Man Wants Advice After Partner Promises To Have Sex With Friend Because His Penis 'Doesn't Work'

A man has turned to the internet for advice after his partner told him they wanted to have sex with their friend, because he is physically unable to have sex.

Taking to Reddit to ask for opinions, the man wrote: "My penis doesn't work and my partner wants to have sex with someone else."

Pretty harrowing already, but the details of his story are even more shocking.

He explained: "I'm keeping the details vague just in case. Essentially my partner has a friend that they 'promised' to have sex with. The promise was made prior to our relationship and they've brought up this promise asking me to have sex with their friend.

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"I'm not okay with it but the situation is complex and laced with issues around communication and potential for break-up."

He went on to explain that it's partly related to his physical issues.

He wrote: "One of the most distressing issues is the fact that my penis is so curved that its functionally impossible for sex. And they want to have sex with this friend. Which I'm not OK with. And there's the threat of break-up if I continue disliking it.

"I don't know if I'd be OK with it if my penis did work. I've cried at night about the state of my penis, since its impossible to have sex.

"I can't stomach watching porn and realising I'm sexually handicapped for life.

"And I've been wanting to agree to allow them to have sex with the friend, which has to occur as a threesome as that's what my partner wants, but my stomach constricts at the thought of his penis going inside them.

"I'll never be able to have that. I'll never be able to go through the process of making a child together properly.

"I have to watch my partner have their first time with a person I feel pressured to have to say yes to or else risk the relationship ending, and know I'm physically impaired from ever having that experience."

Fellow Reddit users were supportive of the man's plight.

One said: "Go to a doctor. There may be surgeries that can correct this condition. I assume you are fairly young and you should not have to go thru [sic] life like this."

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Another advised him: "Just end it and focus on yourself because you don't need this negativity and stress in your life. It's not worth it, it's not healthy and you deserve better."

A third wrote: "Your partner is not obligated to have sex with her friend. Nobody is ever obligated to have sex. Not even after a promise. You can always withdraw consent. You can even stop having sex in the middle of it.

"Thus, there is nothing forcing your partner to do this. She wants to have sex with her friend. The past promise doesn't matter.

"It is just an excuse."

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Amelia Ward

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