Sex Therapist Reveals 'Number One Thing That Turns Women Off'

A sex therapist has revealed the number one thing that turns women off - and no, it has nothing to do with bad breath.

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In a post to her Instagram account, Starielle Hope said the biggest no-no is 'constantly seeking approval'.

Going into more detail, she wrote: "Be fully you. Be willing to hold a boundary, to say 'no' when something doesn't feel right.

"This doesn't mean getting defensive in the face of feedback or criticism and needing to be 'right'. But it does mean staying connected to your deeper wisdom in the face of feminine desires, fears, or chaos.

"We need your strength, we need your structure, we need you to be truly you, not the man you think we want."

So there you have it - be your authentic self and if the person you're dating still isn't interested, it's obviously not meant to be.

This is, of course, the opinion of one woman - everybody has their own unique desires and characteristics they look for in a partner and so this rule might not apply to all.

Even so, it's pretty good advice, if only to protect yourself and your boundaries in a relationship.

This isn't the first time we've been offered advice from Starielle, who works as a sex therapist and helps couples to develop a deeper and more intimate relationship.

Earlier this year, she took to her TikTok page to reveal her top tip for lasting longer in bed.

Starielle said it's important you understand how aroused you are at any one time, claiming it could prevent a 'game over' kind of situation.

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"A lot of men don't know how aroused they are, they're not in touch with the sensation, and they can go from, let's say, if one is not turned on, 10 is 'I'm gonna cum'," she explained.

"They can go from two or three to eight or nine without realising and then all of a sudden they've gone over the edge.

"So as you are feeling excited, what you need to do is track your numbers; are you at a one, two, three, four, five, six? That's all you need to do."

But what does that mean in practice, I hear you cry? Luckily, Starielle didn't leave her followers hanging for too long and came back with a second video to explain what to do next.

"Once you know your arousal level, you're going to practise bringing yourself up to about an eight and then letting yourself calm down to about a four or a five, and bring yourself back up to about and eight again, stop, let yourself calm down," she said.

"So this is a practice called 'edging'. You're gonna want to do it three times, and it allows you to practise getting to a high arousal level without going past the point of no return."

So there you have it - set boundaries, be yourself, and try edging if you want to last longer in bed. Good luck!

Topics: Instagram, Sex, Relationships, TikTok

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