When most couples separate the likelihood is that you won't see each other again never mind reform a relationship five years after breaking up.
That is exactly what motivational speaker Kevin Wesley did when he split from wife Jamie Te'nee after 13 years of marriage.
Five years later, in 2020, 39-year-old Kevin met fellow life coach Lacee Le Beau and made it clear that he was looking to create a throuple with her and his ex-wife Jamie.
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Having previously spoken openly with ex-wife Jamie, 39, about his desire to be in a throuple since the end of their relationship, Jamie was keen to give this potential new relationship a chance.
In a bid to get the ball rolling, Kevin set Jamie and Lacee, who is also 39, up on a date and allowed them to chat alone. Despite both being heterosexual, they immediately felt a strong platonic bond and knew that a throuple relationship with Kevin was something they both wanted. The trio began their relationship together in April 2020.
To prevent misunderstandings and jealousy, the trio have a set routine for spending time together. On Monday and Tuesday, Kevin and Jamie spend all day and night together, whilst Lacee pursues her life coaching.
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Then on Wednesday and Thursday, the setup is reversed with Kevin and Lacee spending two days alone together. The rest of the week, the trio spend time together as a three.
However, when they are together, Kevin has to be careful to not hurt the feelings of his two 'queens' and refrains from showing too much affection.
Some relatives don't approve of their relationship but the trio believe that these negative reactions are more of a reflection of society and its unwillingness to accept polyamorous relationships as opposed to a problem with the love they share.
Kevin said: "I had dated women after me and Jamie separated that were happy with the idea of being poly, but refused to do it with Jamie because in their mind, Jamie has history with me."They thought that they would be coming in lacking power or feeling like they don't have something Jamie does. So it was amazing to have someone who was completely on the same page as me and wanted the same thing.
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"It felt like it was meant to be. They arranged to meet together without me because I didn't want me being there to shape how they saw each other."
Kevin went on: "The responses we get from people when they see that we are in a poly relationship are mixed. When we're out, we'll hold hands together but we don't go too crazy as we do understand that some people might not think the same way as us or be so accepting.
"We've had parents shield their kids' eyes or whisper about us, but you just have to understand that people are viewing our relationship through a different lens.
"Some of the nicest comments are from those who say we've given them strength to live their lives unapologetically even if they're ridiculed.
"The worst are those that say I'm manipulating my queens into being with me which is so far from the truth."
Kevin, Jamie and Lacee understand that their relationship is atypical, but are eager to show the world that the love of three committed partners is just as special as a traditional couple.
Kevin concluded: "Because polygamy is illegal in the United States, people think it is wrong. But they're viewing it through that specific lens.
"In reality we are just three people who love each other and have chosen to forge our lives together. We want to show people how to love and push past the preconceptions they might have about what love is."
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