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Woman Has Sex On First Dates To 'Spot Time Wasters'

Woman Has Sex On First Dates To 'Spot Time Wasters'

Elysia Downings is a single mum running a successful webcam business so believes that bedding a man on the first date can have benefits

Rebecca Shepherd

Rebecca Shepherd

Some people - we'll call them 'traditional' - don't like to kiss on the first date. Others like to wait a good few dates before inviting their potential partner back for a 'drink'.

But these strategies are ones that Elysia Downings doesn't particularly agree with because she always sleeps with anyone she dates to save herself from 'wasting time'. That's if she likes the man in the first place, obviously.

Elysia Downings thinks her approach helps her weed out time wasters.
Elysia Downings

The 28-year-old single mum turned lingerie designer also works as a successful cam girl for Off The Record.

Elysia from Buxton in Derbyshire, says it's a really efficient way of finding out whether a potential suitor wants to date you or just get lucky.

Speaking to The Sun, she said: "I don't see anything wrong with always sleeping with men on first dates - in fact, there are benefits. If a guy is only interested in having sex with you, regardless of whether you do that on the first date or ten dates later, they're going to disappear."

Elysia knows whether she's going to sleep with a man right away.
Elysia Downings

Elysia, who runs underwear and sex toy company called Betsy Boudoir, says she knows immediately whether she's going to sleep with a man she goes on a date with.

She continued: "I subtly let them know that I'm interested with my body language. I might not directly say 'let's go to bed' - I give a good flirt. There's lots of eye contact and tactile touching.

"After drinks, sometimes I'll suggest we go to mine or they'll suggest we go to theirs."

The single mum says she's been slut-shamed by others but it won't stop her.
Elysia Downings

Although she wants the sex to depict that of a passionate film scene, she's not always been that lucky, adding: "Depending on how much alcohol people have had, it can be very far from it. I've had really bad experiences as well as really good.

"I've also had some men who have checked Instagram. Not necessarily mid sex, but after or even before. If we're lying in bed they'll reach over for their phone and it's very off-putting."

Elysia doesn't reach orgasm each time she has sex and refuses to fake it.
Elysia Downings

Elysia admits that she doesn't always find it easy to orgasm with someone she doesn't know that well but says she will never fake one.

"I wouldn't let them have the satisfaction of faking it," she admitted. "They need to know what they're doing. Overall, with the men I've slept with on the first date, I've had more negative sexual experiences than ones that I've thought were definitely worth it.

"I'm always learning from the negative ones and although I try my best not to act impulsively, sometimes it's easy to get carried away in the moment."

Elysia is hoping to retire at the age of 40.
Elysia Downings

According to the Mirror, Elysia charges punters £3.99 a minute to watch her perform various erotic acts online. She claims to have around 500 subscribers with some loyal fans spending thousands to see private broadcasts from her bedroom.

On average she reckons she's making about £500 a day and is hoping to retire by the time she's 40, telling the publication: "By that time my son will be 18, so I can enjoy life and not have to worry about work.

"And I really don't think it's all to do with attractiveness. It's just about being a businesswoman - and I've had years of practise seducing men."

Featured Image Credit: Elysia Downings

Topics: Sex and Relationships, Sex, Community, UK