Sex Coach Points Out Mistake Men Are Making While Trying To Avoid 'Point Of No Return'
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TikTok's seemingly resident sex coach Starielle Hope has returned with more advice for success between the sheets, with a new video giving further tips to guys on how to last longer in bed.
Hope has already posted two previous videos offering insight into the improving your sex performance, including explaining how important it is to be aware of your arousal level. The video has since gone viral.
She's also provided an explanation to the term 'edging': it involves thinking of your arousal level in terms of a scale out of 10 and practicing bringing yourself up and down that scale to prevent an early end to proceedings.
These are two things to bear in mind when following her latest video.
Hope begins her latest part by commenting: "Once you know your arousal level and have practiced edging you're going to now practice your breathing".
Sure, we all breathe in sex, but have you really thought about how you breathe? If you haven't then now's the time.
"What's really really important is that the muscles around the groin are fully relaxed" Hope says.
"A lot of men will tense up those muscles to try and keep themselves from going over to the point of no return but what you actually want to do is be fully relaxed" she adds.
Continuing, she comments: "As you're getting close, as you're getting to high arousal level - maybe an eight or a nine - notice if your muscles are tense or relaxed
"If they're tense, you're going to want to take some deep breaths and really focus on relaxing those muscles as much as possible."
What happens after that? Well, we're going to have to wait and find out as Hope says that a "next part" will follow. Sex isn't the only thing she seems capable of drawing out.
In her previous video, she had given advice to men on knowing their arousal level.
In the video, she said: "A lot of men don't know how aroused they are, they're not in touch with the sensation, and they can go from, let's say, if one is not turned on, 10 is 'I'm gonna cum'.
"They can go from two or three to eight or nine without realising and then all of a sudden they've gone over the edge.
"So as you are feeling excited, what you need to do is track your numbers; are you at a one, two, three, four, five, six? That's all you need to do."
After this, she urged men to practice bringing themselves up and down various levels of arousal - otherwise known as edging. "You're going to practise bringing yourself up to about an eight and then letting yourself calm down to about a four or a five, and bring yourself back up to about and eight again, stop, let yourself calm down" she said.
"You're gonna want to do it three times, and it allows you to practise getting to a high arousal level without going past the point of no return."
With all these tips, we're feeling pretty confident that we can last what popular TikTok user Dr. Ali says is now the average amount of time sex lasts between two heterosexual people - about 13.4 minutes.