Dating Expert Shares One Circumstance Women Should Pay For The First Date
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A dating expert has revealed that she thinks a woman should sometimes pay for the first date instead of the man, but she says there's only one set of circumstances, and the pair should go halves then.
Podcast host and relationship advisor Jana Hocking reckons that men should try to show that they are 'assertive and manly' by picking up the bill on the first date, but revealed the one exception on her Kinda Sorta Dating show.
She said: "I always get in trouble when I say the man should pay for the first date.
"I have rectified that, I do think now if the girl has asked the guy out, they should go halves. I still don't think the girl should pay for all of it."
Despite this, she also said she usually offers to go halves on the date, but said it's not because she actually plans to open her wallet, just that it's a sort of test.
Hocking added: "I don't always mean it, but I always go, 'Oh no, let's go halves'... more often than not guys are going, 'OK' and I'm like 'ah, dammit.'"
She even told a story about how she recently ended up '$100 out of pocket' because she offered to split the tab at a 'really expensive wine bar' with her date.
This latest take comes after another relationship expert - who runs a TikTok and Instagram account called @Ask.Nelly - said that the men should be paying each and every time.
She told her 680,000 followers: "Men should never let a woman pay for a first date".
Nelly added: "If you're asking a girl out and then going Dutch, it just shows you're cheap, you weren't raised right, you're not chivalrous, or you're dating outside your price range - and by that, I mean you're taking a girl out on a date you can't afford to be on.
"So instead of trying to flex on a nice dinner, you're better off taking her on a picnic in the park.
"And even the most progressive girls who insist they split it with you and say they don't mind... do mind.
"Not because they can't afford it, but because it shows us your character and if you're a girl and you've paid for first dates, I want to tell you that he ain't it, sis."
Just remember, it doesn't matter who foots the bill, so long as everyone has a nice time and enjoys each other's company.
That's the only rule when it comes to dating.