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A therapist and counsellor has explained how the order in which siblings are born into their families can have a great impact on their personalities, with first born children often having significant differences from their later siblings. Watch:
In the videos that he shares on the social video platform, he's been talking quite a bit about Adler's birth theory, which discusses how the order of birth has an effect on how you interact with your brothers and sisters, as well as your overall personality.
The first video of the series, which focusses on the eldest sibling, has been watched eight million times.
In that, he states: "This concept states that a person's birth order plays a major role in how an individual's personality is shaped.
"Families place unrealistic expectations on the eldest child and because they are no longer the only child, they must adapt and change, in turn, they become perfectionists, people-pleasers and authoritative, yet extremely helpful.
"They learn to bear most of the responsibility."
However, second children are often more competitive, as they know they have to fight for attention and resources.
Tristan continued: "Their older siblings serve as a role model but also spark a competitive fire as they strive to catch up and surpass their older sibling. In turn, they may be more likely to be better adjusted in life, they are more competitive, peacemakers, people-pleasers, rebellious and always gaining new abilities."
Then, when a third child is born, it sparks off something in the second child as the middle sibling.
He explained: "It's not easy to please parents as much when you're sandwiched between the oldest and the youngest.
"Middle children in smaller families appear more frustrated, while those in bigger families may be more cooperative to get their needs met.
"They can feel like life is unfair, feeling unloved and impatient, but they can also be even-tempered, adaptable and able to compromise."
Then there's the baby.
The youngest, he says, doesn't have to compete because they're always 'the baby'.
Tristan added: "The youngest child does not have the disadvantage of having to compete with a new sibling.
"They are considered the babies since their siblings have likely become independent.
"The youngest may receive more attention, the youngest may be outgoing and attention-seeking, feel inferior to their other siblings, hyper-dependant on others, more competitive to catch up with their siblings developmental level and may behave as if they're the only child.
"Can you relate?"
Well, it turns out people can relate.
One person commented: "I'm the oldest of three and a little creeped out because of how accurate this is."
Another said: "Scary how accurate this is!"
A third said: "I am second born and middle child, I completely understand this."