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Mum Divides Opinion On Punishment That Might 'Traumatise' Her Daughter

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Mum Divides Opinion On Punishment That Might 'Traumatise' Her Daughter

A mum has divided opinion on whether the punishment she gave her daughter was too harsh.

The woman explained on Reddit that 'things have been tense at home', due to a 'tense' relationship with her 17-year-old daughter.

"She is at a stage where she tries to rebel to any hint of authority and uses the 'almost adult' card to justify herself," the 42-year-old mum said on a Reddit feed.

She continued: "For example, there have been times when she leaves the house since the morning and does not tell me where she is going or says that she 'is an adult' to refuse when I ask her to clean her room or do certain house chores.

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"Yesterday, my daughter gave me a list of all the flaws that she thinks I have as a person.

"They are all personal flaws: my gestures, my accent, my physical appearance, etc.

"I would have appreciated if the list had been about flaws in my parenting, or things that I can improve, but they were all an attack on my person."

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The mum went on to say: "I was quite offended and sad when I finished reading it.

"I told my daughter that I wanted her to make a list of her flaws like the one she made about me, and then give it to me, so we can both comment about our flaws.

The daughter was told that she couldn't use her mother's car until she writes the list.

The mum added: "My daughter said that I am an a**hole, a bad parent and that making that list about herself is going to traumatize her.

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"She says that taking away her car is horrible and that she is going to hate me for eternity if I don't stop the punishment."

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One user thought the punishment wasn't too harsh and commented: "Don't clean her room, let it rot until she has no choice but to clean it. She sounds like a real brat. And 17 is too old for it to be excusable."

A second user thought the punishment wasn't severe enough and wrote: "Can even go further. She's an adult? Okay then she needs to pitch in for a lot of the household chores as well.

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"Needs to cover her own basic expenses... Treat her like an adult until she realises she's not one."

However, another user had a slightly different view to the mum and said: "So I get the thought behind the punishment, but it's probably not the best way to go about it. Kids like that can be absolute aholes when they're experimenting with boundaries.

"Personally, I'd probably apologize and then have a long talk about what being "almost an adult" actually means."

A fourth user had some advice for the mother: "Maybe tread carefully here, there could be a lot that gets uncovered on this one and you may well end up learning more about your daughter's real self-image from this than you're prepared for."

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Topics: Mum, daughter

Anish Vij
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