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Sexperts Reveal Common Mistakes Couples Make In Bed

Sexperts Reveal Common Mistakes Couples Make In Bed

They have shared their top tips for couples seeking perfection in the bedroom.

Dominic Smithers

Dominic Smithers

When you've been together for a while, it can be difficult to keep the fire going in a relationship.

But a group of 'sexperts' may have just the thing to help you and your significant other rekindle that flame after revealing some of the biggest mistakes couples make in the bedroom.

Ruby Payne works for online sex toy retailer UberKinky, and has offered some of her top tips for achieving sexual satisfaction.

Firstly, she says, it's important not to make the orgasm the sole focus of proceedings; it's about being connected to your partner.

"An orgasm should be seen as a happy by-product of getting it on, rather than the goal," Ruby said, as per The New York Post.

"Sex is a journey, and focusing too much on orgasms puts a huge amount of pressure on both parties. And if there's one thing that's a mood killer, it's pressure."

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Similarly, watching the clock is also a "sure-fire way to put pressure on yourself" and ruin any kind of romantic mood.

So even if you've only got a limited amount of time to get down to it, try to stay in the moment rather than counting down the seconds.

Experimentation is also a key part of keeping things interesting, so trying new positions can also go a long way to spicing things up.

"There's a whole big wide world of sex positions out there," says Ruby. " So it's time to change it up."

Kate Moyle is LELO's in-house expert, and she thinks communication is key when it comes to trying something new.

She says: "Often couples, or one partner in a couple, can be intimidated by adding something to their sex life."

Adding: "Don't just spring it on each other, talk about it before, but it's a great way of mixing up the routine."

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Also, taking your intimacy out of the bedroom, a cheeky flirt or kiss can also improve your sex life, Ruby says.

"Your goal isn't to turn them on; your goal is to keep the desire alive."

Sometimes, however, the other person just isn't in the mood and it's important to understand boundaries and to take rejection well.

Ruby says: "If they said they weren't hungry but you were, you wouldn't be mad. You'd probably say 'when do you want to eat?'

"Don't take it personally and never ever pressure or guilt trip your partner into sex just because you're in the mood."

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But all of this hard work can be undone if a few too many glasses of vino have been involved beforehand.

Ness Cooper, a Sexologist and Sex and Relationship Coach at The Sex Consultant, says it will almost certainly ruin any kind of sexual experience.

She said: "If you're planning a night of intense erotic play, try and limit the amount you can drink so not only can you fully feel the sensations, but also be present in the moment."

And similarly, Ness warns that it's never a good idea to try and have sex either when you're super hungry or super full.

She says: "When we don't have the energy, we can't perform at our fullest during sexual play. Sex is a physical activity and we need food to help us do it."

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Topics: UK News, Dating, Relationships