A woman has sparked debate after posting a controversial take on whether people over the age of 30 should receive wedding gifts.
Posting anonymously on Reddit, the woman said her attending the wedding should be enough for the newly-weds.
She said she was inspired to raise the subject after receiving a wedding registry (a list of gift preferences) where none of the items were under $400 (£300).
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She wrote: "For couples who are already well-off adults in their 30s/40s+ who have nice homes full of nice stuff (and maybe this isn't their first marriage), why is there any expectation of a gift to begin with?
"People you presumably care about are taking time out of their lives to celebrate your union. Isn't their presence enough of a present, especially if they've travelled to attend? How does this make sense?"
It's a controversial take, but with context you can kind of see where she's coming from.
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Reddit users were split but many of them were surprisingly against the original poster.
One person thought that although the idea of a registry might rub people up the wrong way - especially if it's as expensive as a minimum of $400 - people are generally still keen to give gifts at weddings.
They wrote: "I think if the registry isn't your thing that's totally cool, maybe do the honey fund or have people make a donation to a charity in your name. But something my mom says is that giving is something people enjoy doing. It makes them feel like a part of something.
"Taking that away from some people may actually be a disservice if they are looking forward to giving to you guys in some way and feeling connected through that action."
Another wrote about their own wedding, saying: "It's definitely expected. We didn't register, and so many people asked for our registry info. We ended up putting some links to donate to charities on our website, and we still received a few gifts of household items!"
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A third agreed that registries can be too expensive.
They said: "I agree with ya! My cousin recently married his long time girlfriend. They live together in a nice house in a nice neighbourhood and have everything they need for their house.
"Their registry was full of expensive crap like fishing supplies and expensive appliances like an instapot. I felt a bit offended by the price tags.
"I bought them a decent set of dish towels and pot holders. May have not been on their registry, but I'm sure they'll use 'em."
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