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Ever wanted to know how to last longer in bed? Of course, you have. Well, a sex coach has now revealed her top tip for avoiding an early end to proceedings when you're getting intimate with your partner. Watch below:
She says: "Number one is to know your arousal level on a scale from one to 10.
"A lot of men don't know how aroused they are, they're not in touch with the sensation, and they can go from, let's say, if one is not turned on, 10 is 'I'm gonna cum'.
"They can go from two or three to eight or nine without realising and then all of a sudden they've gone over the edge.
"So as you are feeling excited, what you need to do is track your numbers; are you at a one, two, three, four, five, six? That's all you need to do."
But what does that mean in practice, I hear you cry?
Luckily, Starielle didn't leave her followers hanging for too long and came back with a second video to explain what to do next.
She says: "Once you know your arousal level, you're going to practise bringing yourself up to about an eight and then letting yourself calm down to about a four or a five, and bring yourself back up to about and eight again, stop, let yourself calm down.
"So this is a practice called 'edging'. You're gonna want to do it three times, and it allows you to practise getting to a high arousal level without going past the point of no return."
Now, you might be asking yourself, 'How long does the average bonk last?'
Well, Dr Ali - who has one million followers on TikTok - was intrigued by the same question, and decided to do a little digging.
In a video posted on her account, she said: "So overall this is going to vary couples to couples, and obviously people define sex differently: does it include the foreplay, is it just penis-vaginal sex?
"The studies that were done look at penile-vaginal sex. So in 2005, when the study was done, the average length was 5.4 minutes."
However, according to more recent studies, the time is going up.
Dr Ali explained: "Then again in 2008 they did another study and the desirable length was seven to 10 minutes [corrected to seven to 13 minutes].
"And then in 2020 they surveyed heterosexual women and they said 13.4 minutes was average."
So there you have it. God speed.
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