Man Reveals That He Hasn't Had Sex With His Wife For Seven Years

Life in a sexless marriage is hard, and one man has laid bare just how difficult it can be.

Writing anonymously on the internet site Netmums, the man bared his soul in search of a solution to his problem: "Hi all, so I have a major problem, and wondered if there are any other couples out there in a same situation, basically is this the usual, is it common, am I just making a fuss about nothing.

"Basically I am the father of two lovely children, aged six and 10, my wife and I are in our mid 40's we have been married for seven years, been together for 11 years, since we got married we have not actually consummated the marriage," he continued.

"I have a high sex drive, but my wife has no libido - she admits to not wanting sex, she says she never really enjoyed sex, which is news to me as when we first got together it was great.

"She has very low self esteem, and although I give her lots of loving, say the right things, in the past bought her nice things, nice lingerie, she works a couple of hours a week, I even cook most evenings.

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The problem has come to a head of late: "Recently, I feel life is wasting away and my wife just says it is not her problem, she does not counselling or wants to see the doctors as there is nothing wrong.

"I have been to the doctors to ask for medication to lower my libido, and they said know nothing on the market, besides it would not be healthy.

"So what do I do, leave and risk messing up the children or put up with it knowing I will never have sex again.

"As I say is this normal, are there other couples out there in the same position."

The site's audience were quick to chime in with help for the man.

" think that this is an incredibly difficult situation," wrote one user. "Is there a reason for her low libido? I'm just thinking if it's been the last seven years then did she have a traumatic labour our PND? Counselling would be useful but it's difficult if she isn't keen."

Another added: "I can hear how difficult this is for you, and understandably so. Every couple, and every relationship is unique. Situations that would seem completely intolerable for one individual, might be exactly right for another.

"However, within a healthy relationship it is important that both parties feel valued, and that each partner is able to express their needs and feel that they are being respected and listened to.

"You have shared that your wife does not want to seek counselling, however I wonder if you have considered having counselling for you?

"Potentially having a safe space to be able to talk this through in more depth, and support from a trained professional, may be helpful and empowering. It is important that you are able to work out what you want to do moving forward."

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