Experts reveal 5 signs you need to see a couples' therapist

Let's be honest, every couple likes to think they’re the ‘better couple’ out of their couple friends.

There just seems to be that smugness that comes with being in a relationship.

Yet the reality is things aren’t always so lovey-dovey and it’s normal to have the odd bicker here and there.

And sometimes relationships can hit the rocks – maybe you’ve left the dirty dishes out on the side one too many times, or you know, done something a bit more serious.

But that doesn’t mean you’ve got to split up, some things are worth saving and getting professional help could be worth it.

Of course, no one should be staying in a toxic relationship but going to couple’s therapy could stop your healthy one going downhill.

Relationship therapist Dr Emily May from Private Sugar Club and Sex therapist Melissa Cook shares with LADbible five signs that mean you need to see a couples’ therapist.

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Frequent and repetitive arguments

Dr May says ‘never-ending and regular arguments’ are the first warning sign.

“It can indicate unresolved issues and tension and difficulty in effective communication,” she explains.

It’s also a red flag if there’s no fighting but no communication, as it highlights that you’re both not trying to resolve it.

Seeing a professional ‘can help you break free from this vicious cycle’.

Communication breakdown

Another ‘symptom’ of poor communication is silence.

If you can’t talk effectively as a couple, it can create ‘misunderstandings, resentment and frustration’ leading to a lack of emotional connection.

There could even be a development of feeling inadequate and not trusting each other.

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Loss of connection

Things like moving home or having kids can impact relationships, with life changes sometimes causing people to drift apart.

Perhaps you lose sight of your shared goals and interests which might have been connecting you.

The experts say a therapist can also help you ‘re-establish your connection’.

Lack of intimacy

Cook warns that intimacy is ‘crucial’ for romantic relationships.

“Without it, individuals can feel lonely, disconnected and inadequate,” the sex therapist says.

“A couple’s therapist can work on physical and emotional intimacy, helping you to foster a deeper connection with your partner.”

Major life transitions

Cook also says that significant life changes and financial stress can trigger ‘emotional turbulence’ as well having a major impact on your sex life.

She says that seeing a professional can help get you through these scenarios and support each other better while also making room for intimacy.

Topics: Mental Health, Sex and Relationships

Jess Battison

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