Sexologist explains why only some people are able to do 'hands free masturbation' technique that has many health benefits
The act of self-love is proven to possibly enhance your sleep, reduce stress, and banish pain
A sexologist has revealed why some people may be able to experience a so-called ‘hands-free’ masturbation and why others may struggle with the practice.
Like it says on the tin, hands-free masturbation is a way of reaching sexual bliss without actually relying on physical stimulation.
Instead of using penetration or their hands to get off, some people like to utilise connections between the brain and the body to achieve their orgasms, as per WebMD.
There are a variety of ways people can achieve this type of sexual climax. These include humping and grinding pillows and sex toys, water play, dirty talk, and even just clenching your muscles.
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The latter, known as syntribation, has a myriad of health benefits, according to sex therapist Kimberly Thomas.
"Syntribation is also a safe way to explore your own sexuality, build familiarity and comfort with your sexual self, and gain sexual confidence," the sex therapist explained to Women’s Health.
"Please keep in mind that people around you are not consenting to being around you as you masturbate, so opt for more independent settings."
Reaching orgasm through other methods can be helpful
According to Shannon Chavez, a sex therapist and psychologist based in Beverly Hills, humans need a ‘variety’ of different ways to reach orgasm in their arsenal.
If not, then your body can become ‘conditioned’ to thinking it can only reach climax via one method.
“Trying different techniques shows you that there are a lot of different ways we can orgasm,” she explained to Women’s Health Magazine.
As well as experiencing hands-free masturbation, some people can actually have and enjoy touch-free self-stimulation. This involves everything from orgasmic breathing techniques to orgasm hypnosis.
According to Carol Queen, PhD, sexologist for Good Vibrations, ‘orgasms happen in the brain before they happen in the genitals’.
“So, sometimes, orgasms happen just in the brain,” she revealed to Healthline.
Why can’t everyone have a hands-free orgasm?
Unfortunately, according to Searah Deysach, a longtime sex educator, not everyone will find breath orgasms possible.
This is because it requires conscious, intentional breathing techniques that can be rather difficult to master.
People with underlying respiratory conditions, such as anxiety, may also be prevented from trying this type of hands-free masturbation. But Deysach doesn’t want that to put you off. “It is certainly worth giving a try,” she added.
Meanwhile, Queen said that some people won’t be able to have a hands-free orgasm because they simply can’t reach a climax.
According to Dr. Laurie Mintz, another sex therapist, 10 percent of women have reported never having orgasmed in their lifetime.
Many find they don’t orgasm at all during vaginal sex, while only three in ten women say they find pleasure every time they do the deed, as per YouGov UK.
How to improve your chances of a hands-free orgasm
If you struggle to orgasm, then there are a handful of things you can do to set yourself up for a positive experience, according to experts.
One of which is to get aroused. Deysach said this can be done in a multitude of ways; watching sexy videos, reading erotic fiction, engaging in light dirty talk, or just using your mind to fantasise about different situations.
“Being aroused will flood your bits with blood, making them more sensitive and reactive to whatever technique you’re using,” she added.
If it’s a slice of self-love you’re after, then working out, trying a sex toy mount, or embarking on play in the shower or the bath may hold the answers you’ve been looking for.
Health benefits of hands-free masturbation
According to Dr Sham Singh, a psychiatrist who approaches mental health holistically, orgasms can help you perk up in the morning, or get settled down at night.
The doctor said there were 'numerous psychological and physical advantages' to masturbation, including helping to relax your muscles, put your mind in a better place and 'relieve premenstrual tension caused by menstruation'.
Other benefits of masturbation include stress relief, increased self-esteem and body image, and potentially enhancing your sex life, as per the Cleveland Clinic.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, UK News, Health
Ella Scott