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Woman Catfished By Cousin For 10 Years Calls For Criminalisation

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Updated 16:37 3 Jan 2022 GMTPublished 16:36 3 Jan 2022 GMT

Woman Catfished By Cousin For 10 Years Calls For Criminalisation

She thought she'd spent more than a decade in a relationship with a doctor called Bobby, but she was in fact messaging a relative

Jake Massey

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Jake Massey
Jake Massey

Jake Massey is a journalist at LADbible. He graduated from Newcastle University, where he learnt a bit about media and a lot about living without heating. After spending a few years in Australia and New Zealand, Jake secured a role at an obscure radio station in Norwich, inadvertently becoming a real-life Alan Partridge in the process. From there, Jake became a reporter at the Eastern Daily Press. Jake enjoys playing football, listening to music and writing about himself in the third person.

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A woman who was catfished by her cousin for more than 10 years has called for it to be made a criminal offence.

Former radio DJ Kirat Assi, from London, began chatting to a supposed cardiologist named Bobby on Facebook back in 2009.

She vaguely knew Bobby through the Sikh community, and over the years their online messaging evolved into a long-distance relationship.

However, it turned out the person she'd been messaging throughout her thirties wasn't Bobby - it was, in fact, Simran Bhogal, her younger cousin.

Kirat was duped for a decade by her younger cousin.
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Now, having suffered immeasurably over years of deception, Kirat is calling for catfishing - whereby people are lured into relationships through fictional identities - to be made into a specific criminal offence.

Speaking to The Sunday Times, she said: "I think it might serve as a deterrent for a lot of people to know that if you're caught then immediately it's a crime, just like driving with a mobile in your hand.

"It would be an immediate deterrent, so many people will still do it but some people will think, 'I'm just not risking it.'"

Furthermore, Kirat prefers not to use the term 'catfishing', arguing it undermines the severity of something which 'devastated' her life.

She explained: "I call it online entrapment. I wasn't on a dating site, I'm private online.

"The connotations associated with the term catfishing are that it's fun. This impacted my health, my family, friends, social life, my radio work, my career, absolutely everything."

The damage caused by the deception was in large part to due to the great lengths Simran went to, creating more than 50 fake online profiles and weaving them together to create elaborate stories and dynamics that never really existed.

Simran even killed off Bobby at one point, before bringing him back to life and putting him into witness protection.

All of this had a huge impact on Kirat, who ended up losing weight and was even signed off work with stress.

After finally uncovering the deceit, she went to police, but said her story wasn't taken seriously.

She eventually brought a civil action against her cousin in 2020, which was settled out of court.

The remarkable tale is the subject of six-part podcast, Sweet Bobby.

Kirat said: "She has taken ten years of my life from me, years I will not get back.

"In that time I could have met someone real, had a baby. I lost my friends, my job, my savings.

"I opened up to him - her - telling him things about my hopes, dreams, my childhood, that I'd never tell anyone. I feel violated."

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