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Diagnosed narcissist talks about what it’s ‘really’ like living with the condition

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Published 14:23 1 Aug 2024 GMT+1

Diagnosed narcissist talks about what it’s ‘really’ like living with the condition

They took to Reddit to reveal more about how it is to live with their condition

Joshua Nair

Joshua Nair

A narcissist has shared their experience with the disorder online, answering questions and revealing what it's really like to live as one.

The user openly posted their thoughts on social media site Reddit, revealing more about what living with Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is like by answering questions from other users.

The user posted: "I am a diagnosed narcissist nearing remission. AMA (ask me anything). I'm proud of myself for once so I wanna talk about it."

A narcissist has explained what it's like to live with the condition. (Getty Stock Photo)
A narcissist has explained what it's like to live with the condition. (Getty Stock Photo)

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Questions started flooding in, as someone asked about narcissists thinking they were better than everyone else, not matching with the feelings of being sad and suicidal, seeing if this was a misunderstanding.

They then responded, stating: "It is misinformation."

"The main trait among all narcissists is that we have a self destructive need for attention and approval. Outside of that, there is a massive scale and two people with NPD can present completely differently. That being said, I've never met another narcissist that didn't hate themselves deep down," they revealed.

The user also revealed that this all stems from 'neglect and abuse' during childhood, saying it results in a lack of self-esteem and a sense of self.

They added: "I've had what can be equivalent to 'mania' and 'depression' that is similar to bipolar. The mania part I do feel great and I feel like top s**t, but it doesn't last very long."

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When asked about how and when they got diagnosed, the user revealed that it took a serious hospital visit for everything to come to light.

"I was very self-destructive and I had a lot of suicide attempts. One of them landed me in the hospital where they kept me, monitored me longer than usual, and invited my therapist I had as a teenager in as well," they wrote.

They took to Reddit to explain how they see things in life. (Getty Stock Photo)
They took to Reddit to explain how they see things in life. (Getty Stock Photo)

The user also said that they didn't accept the diagnosis at first because it didn't match the description of narcissism that the general public had painted out.

"They told me if I accepted the diagnosis they could give me access to the resources and help I desperately needed...." they said.

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"Pretty much told me my only option was put in the hard work to get better or feel like I was feeling forever."

Since then though, the user revealed that they wanted to feel better and that they chose to do this not just for themself, but for those around them as well.

When it comes to understanding other people, they said that they 'feel confused a lot', as they 'don't understand neurotypical mindsets', as 'everyone is so different'.

They gave the example of being a bit unfaithful: "Flirting with with someone when you're in a relationship for example. I know that it can hurt someone I love but I don't understand why. I just know it does so I don't do it. That's where I am at right now."

Empathy is very much a foreign concept to those with NPD. (Getty Stock Photo)
Empathy is very much a foreign concept to those with NPD. (Getty Stock Photo)

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Apparently, the user's selfishness came from the thinking that everyone would hurt them if they were given the chance, so hurting them first wouldn't be as bad, as them being hurt was perceived as the feeling of being upset that they didn't 'win' at manipulating the user.

However, after receiving help, they revealed that empathy is easier for them to understand, as if someone is upset, they relate it to a similar moment in their life, and they'll understand.

They revealed that 'therapy, hard work, medication and people giving them understanding and empathy' have been influential in changing their outlook on things.

"We struggle with empathy because we have rarely received it in our lives. It doesn't mean we don't have it (some don't, but most do to some degree)." the user explained.

"You have a childhood that punished you for having feelings or caring. Telling us we are being manipulative every time we have feelings or try to care is just affirming to us those toxic beliefs."

Featured Image Credit: Getty Stock Photos

Topics: Mental Health, Reddit, Social Media

Joshua Nair
Joshua Nair

Joshua Nair is a journalist at LADbible. Born in Malaysia and raised in Dubai, he has always been interested in writing about a range of subjects, from sports to trending pop culture news. After graduating from Oxford Brookes University with a BA in Media, Journalism and Publishing, he got a job freelance writing for SPORTbible while working in marketing before landing a full-time role at LADbible. Unfortunately, he's unhealthily obsessed with Manchester United, which takes its toll on his mental and physical health. Daily.

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