A bride-to-be has been criticised for putting a $76 minimum price on wedding gifts from guests.
The fiancee originally posted a question anonymously on a Facebook page asking if her actions were rude.
“Is it rude to put on invitations that gifts of $50 US ($76 AUD) or more are mandatory,” the soon to be bride wrote.
“My fiancé and I have a lot of people in our families that love to show up empty handed to events,” the bride continued, “which is really distasteful to us.”
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“One of our love languages is receiving gifts and I feel it’s befitting for them to at least come to the wedding with a gift worth $50.”
The original post on Facebook in a private group had over 278 comments.
“Your wedding should be about love, not gifts,” read one of the comments.
“Maybe that $50 could have been used to feed their kids or pay a bill."
The anonymous poster defended her decision saying neither 'my family nor friends are that impoverished'.
In an update to the post, the bride said: “No I am not having a wedding just to get gifts.”
“But if plates cost $150 on top of enjoying an open bar and an individual brings nothing just because they felt like it, I feel that’s a slap in the face to my union.
“Yes, someone might not be able to afford $50 but why is coming empty-handed widely acceptable?”
The bride then asked: “If everyone came to your nice birthday party with no gift at all, like no one bought anything but was enjoying everything you had to offer, how would y’all feel?”
A screenshot of the post was then uploaded to Reddit on r/weddingshaming where in two days it has amassed over 700 upvotes and 274 comments.
“How many times do people have to be told that it’s an invitation not a summons, and a reception is to receive your guests and thank them for coming to your ceremony,” commented one user.
“People who enjoy receiving gifts as part of their primary love language do not necessarily expect large or expensive presents; it's more the effort and thoughtfulness behind the gift that counts,” another user said.
“Gift giving isn’t random objects out of obligation, In fact, that’s awful, I hate soulless things without meaning,” a third commented.
“Gift giving is I had no intention of seeking it out, but it made me think of you, even in ordinary boring moments, because you’re on my mind.”
Velentina Boulter