Millionaire’s ’invisible guest theory’ will completely change how you think about socialising

A viral theory about how to deal with crippling self consciousness at parties could be just the thing you need for the festive season.

With Christmas just days away, festive drinks at the pub come in thick and fast and your social life suddenly triples. And let’s be honest, not all of us have the battery life to keep up with and it really can be quite tough.

But there’s a special theory that many people use and it can completely change the way you think about socialising for the better.

Often viral on social media and even in the spiels that get posted on LinkedIn, the ‘invisible guest theory’ is even supposedly credited by ‘millionaires’ as to how they get through dealing with big groups of people.

This could be a useful theory for socialising over the festive period (Getty Stock Image)

So, let’s get straight into how this whole thing works.

Basically, it’s pointed out that at ‘almost any gathering’ whether it be a party or a dinner or a big meeting – even a Zoom call – most people aren’t actually thinking about you.

Your mind might be super conscious of what they’re thinking of you, but they’re said to not even be giving you a second thought and instead ‘thinking about themselves’.

“Their tone. Their outfit. Their to-do list. Their insecurities. Their fear of being judged,” the viral theory reads, as one poster claimed to hear it from a ‘millionaire’ who added: “They’re too busy worrying about themselves.”

So, with everyone ‘wondering if people like them’, it obviously means a lot of the time ‘you’re just an invisible guest in their world’.

Yep, this theory isn’t about imagining there’s someone ‘invisible’ at the gathering that you need to be conscious of, but that you’re actually the ‘invisible’ one.

“Not because you don’t matter,” the viral thing continues, “but because everyone is trapped in their own head.”

It's even useful in work environments (Getty Stock Image)

I mean, plenty of us will have left rooms thinking everyone was judging us or awkwardly sidled around a party conscious of what impression we were making.

But this ‘invisible guest theory’ can be pretty liberating to consider.

“Because if everyone is too busy overanalysing themselves to notice your tiny slip-ups or awkward laugh or stumbled sentence.....” one LinkedIn thread adds.

So, if you take this onboard during the many, many social events that tend to roll in at this time of year or even just at work, you might find yourself being a bit more ‘real’ and relaxed as you don’t overthink what others are thinking.

And why, being a little less self-conscious and a little more free is a pretty good thing – a decent new year’s resolution if you ask me.