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Topics: Sex and Relationships
Jess Battison
A 44-year-old virgin who reckons he's ‘very normal’ explained why he hasn’t popped his cherry quite yet.
Stephen Kinnard is a British business owner who, at the age of 44, has never had sex.
In the hopes of reassuring other men and teenage lads just like him that ‘it’s not that bad’, he sat down with LADbible for an episode of Honesty Box.
Stephen admitted to having some ‘struggles with confidence’ as well as ‘a nasty habit of comparing himself against other men’.
I'm sure plenty of blokes out there can empathise with that.
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It’s not like he’s never gone near a woman, as Kinnard says he’s been told he’s ‘quite a good kisser’.
However, the furthest he’s gone is ‘kissing, cuddling and just hands’.
When it comes to sex and exploring the more intimate aspects of a love life, everyone goes at their own pace with these things, there is no 'too late' when it comes to this.
Stephen's habit of comparing himself to other men is certainly not unusual, and comparison is the thief of joy.
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The 44-year-old reckons you'd be surprised at how many other middle-aged male virgins there are out there, as he’s very much not alone.
Although it’s not exactly the majority – a YouGov survey found the median age at which Brits lost their virginity is 17, with six per cent of men saying they were 25 or older when they first had sex.
When Kinnard was asked why he is still a virgin, he said: “Well, probably because I haven't slept with anybody yet.
“But it's something that there is a big question mark over because I'm not socially awkward.
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“I don't really have any funny habits that would be classed as weird. I'm sociable and I've got a wide range of friends.
“And I would consider myself very normal but very shy, and especially shy when I talk to women.
“I hear a lot of people say things such as, ‘Oh, it's only sex. Just go and do it. Sex is not important.’
“But to me, somehow it's always been important and a very private thing between two people, and something that I've always wanted to be special.”
The bloke says he’s ‘absolutely’ not asexual as he ‘adores’ and ‘loves’ women.
“I’m interested in having sex and enjoying the whole thing that goes with a relationship and intimacy,” he added.
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Kinnard decided to speak about this ‘private thing’ with LADbible because: “As I've got older, I've found it more of a struggle being a virgin, and I've realised that there are other people out there that are the same as me.
“So I've felt the need to talk about it, was given the chance to talk about it, and hopefully it will help other people, as it has helped me.”