Virgin woman, 27, explains why she won’t even kiss anyone until she is married
A woman who is taking her vow of virginity so seriously that she won't even kiss anyone until she is married has explained why.
Elezha Hudson says she decided that her lips were strictly reserved for her future husband when she was just 10 years old - and nearly two decades later, she still feels the same way.
The security guard, 27, explained that she has not wavered in her stance since then and has still not experienced her first smooch.
Although prospective partners have asked if 'there's something wrong with her' or even quizzed her about whether she is 'in a cult', Elezha isn't in a rush to secure herself a snog.
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"This doesn't bother me," she said of the intense reactions she has received when revealing she has never locked lips with someone. "I have dated before and usually it's not a surprise for them, as we've had a conversation about it even before dating.
"When I meet the person, some have the same values and some don't - and then the relationship doesn't continue further."
Elezha, who hails from the city of Houston in the US state of Texas, said she isn't bothered about romances fizzling out due to her refusal to kiss before marriage.
In fact, she is happy to remain 'kissless' for life if it comes down to it, as she's not kidding about her exclusively saving her lips for Mr Right.
"I've never had a first kiss," Elezha said. "The meaning of a kiss is different for me, and I'm waiting for the one to have this moment with."
The American said that her peers are 'usually shocked and sometimes a bit disturbed' when she reveals that she is completely celibate.
She explained: "Especially when you're talking to guys, the conversation quickly goes to intimacy and they are normally taken back when they hear that I'm 27 and a virgin.
"I get asked if there is something wrong with me or if I'm in a cult, but this doesn't bother me.
"I'm a virgin and I'm saving this for marriage too. A kiss can sometimes lead to intimacy and I don't want any of this before my wedding day."
Although she's willing to die on this hill, Elezha did admit that she used to feel embarrassed about unequivocally saving herself for marriage.
"Before speaking with people in the same situation, I did feel uncomfortable as I would question if there was something wrong with me," she continued.
"As I became older though, I realised it's nothing to be ashamed about. At one point in high school, I did ask myself if I was scared of intimacy. I think it's more about being intimate with someone that doesn't really like me and they took something from me that's important.
"On my wedding day, I'm excited to share a kiss with someone who wants commitment. I'm more excited about being with a person that I have a real connection with, rather than the kiss itself."
Elezha is a practicing Christian, but she insists her decision is down to 'personal choice' rather than for religious reasons.
Inevitably, she's curious about kissing and everything that can come with it - however, the security guard says she doesn't have any FOMO about it.
As well as this, Elezha isn't too worried about her future husband disappointing her with his smooching skills either, as she has nothing to compare it to.
What a bonus for the bad kissers out there, eh?
"When you have never kissed anyone, people ask how I know if they're going to be a good kisser," Elezha said. "It doesn't matter to me as I have nothing to compare it to.
"I don't feel like I'm missing out. If I really liked that person, I don't think it would be a problem. I'm comfortable with the idea that if it never happens [my first kiss or losing my virginity], I'm not missing out on anything.
"If a family is what I desire, I can adopt and have a family. I will just be a kissless person."
Good for you, girl!
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Dating trends, US News
Olivia Burke