Swingers who divorced after 11 years shared reality of what family thought of lifestyle

A swinger couple who called time on their relationship after over a decade together once revealed what their families thought of the lifestyle.

Jess and Mike Miller appeared together on Channel 4 TV show Open House: The Great Sex Experiment back in 2022, having posted NSFW content for four years prior to their first public appearance.

The pair used to post steamy content on OnlyFans, while also venturing out into the consensual non-monogamy lifestyle away from the camera.

While the couple were known for their adult content, they would admit earlier this year that the lifestyle ultimately led to their divorce after 11 years together.

They claimed that they would earn up to £50,000 per month on these videos, as they originally started posting to help with mortgage repayments before it became a full-blown job.

The swingers opened up about why their lifestyle didn't work out in the end (Instagram/@jessandmike2)

Jess and Mike have a teenage son together and co-parent Jess' daughter from a previous relationship. Back in 2022, the couple shared that they were eventually forced to tell family.

At the time, Jess recalled: "My friend messaged me asking if I was a pornstar and my heart sank as I didn't know how she knew.

"So, I told my mum from there and she was really chilled about it.

"All our families care about is that we are happily married and that we love each other."

Together with Mike, they even told their children what they did for a living, saying that their eldest at the time 'knows pretty much everything', while their younger son says it's 'none of my business'.

Speaking on Channel 5's Adults Only: Kinky for Cash, Mike remembered a family member telling him that they 'don't want it around the children, don't want to speak to you'.

"One is too young to fully know what we do, our eldest was very mature and said as long as we are happy and love them then it's not a problem at all," Mike added.

He pointed out at the time: "We're happy and our kids are happy so that's all that matters."

Since then though, the couple have faced rougher times, with Jess admitting that their venture into the swinging department contributed to the breakup.

Mike was a personal trainer when the pair met in August 2012, as he claimed he knew Jess was 'the one' after their first kiss, getting married in June 2017.

Jess said that Mike put himself on a pedestal with his solo content (Instagram/@jessandmike2)

Speaking in a TikTok video about some of the reasons behind their divorce, Jess said: "Some people ask if the job was the ruiner of our relationship.

"I wouldn’t say it was the ultimate ruiner of the relationship, but I think there were elements of it that were a problem when it came to the dynamic of us.

"When it comes to our job, the woman is automatically like the main attraction of it," the mum said, before explaining that she feels this ended up being 'something that ate [Mike] up in the end."

She said that Mike put himself on a pedestal with his own content because of his 'own insecurities', adding that she 'wanted him to have success on his own'.

Jess said it felt like 'a bit of a kick in the teeth', as Mike launched his 'solo career' in early 2025, as Jess said in a separate social media post that all she wanted was to feel 'special' when he started to do content by himself.

"If you've gone and done a solo thing with someone - take me out for dinner, make me feel special, make me feel like I'm the one for you. And I didn't get that. I didn't ever get that and that's what I was asking for," she claimed.

The mother said she felt like she was sacrificing her happiness by making the adult content, as she 'physically couldn't do it anymore'.