Sex Therapist Says Straight Men Can Have Sex With Men Without It Being Gay


Sex Therapist Says Straight Men Can Have Sex With Men Without It Being Gay

An American sex therapist has explained how straight men can have sex with men without it being specifically gay.


Dr Joe Kort divided the internet when he uploaded a new video to his TikTok account where he argued that it's more of a 'guy thing' than a gay experience.

According to News Corp, the bloke has a doctorate in clinical sexology, has written multiple books on sexuality and works as a psychotherapist and relationships coach. So, he's pretty well versed in the subject.


He believes it all comes down to context and what the two (or more) consenting adults want out of the situation.

"In general men have more transactional sex with one another, in general women don't," he said in his video. "Men have objectified sex where it's just about the act, it's just about getting off."

Opinion was split on the topic, with some people agreeing with the idea that sexuality is fluid and others outright rejecting the notion.

One person wrote: "Some people amaze me. The double standard too. Women 'make out' with other women and still be 100 per cent straight."


Another added: "I'm sorry but I don't believe that."

A third said: "This has been happening since the beginning of time. People need to research."

Dr Kort told his more than 300,000 followers that 'behaviour doesn't determine sexual orientation'.


He used his own personal experiences as an example, revealing that if he never had sex again, he would still be a gay man. He also said some straight men have sex with men because they're narcissistic and love the idea that another man is into having sex with him.

"The straight man who is having sex with another man is into it because the guy is into him, it's all about him," he said.

Dr Kort also said it could happen because of voyeurism and these men enjoy the arousal from sexual acts, even if no women are around.

People in the comments section questioned that 'straight' men who have sex with other men could just be bisexual and Dr Kort didn't disagree, but said that was a different scenario.


"Straight men are not attracted to men, they're attracted to the sex with men," Dr Kort explained in one video.

"Could some of these men be gay or bisexual? Absolutely, but that comes over time and that's a trajectory that only they can be in touch with to figure that out."

Featured Image Credit: Dr Joe Kort/TikTok

Topics: News, Interesting

Stewart Perrie
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