‘Boomerasking’ could be a sign that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist

'Boomerasking' is a new idea that could allegedly be a sign of narcissism in relationships, and it's something a lot of us do.

On a red flag list that already apparently includes being charming and offering to pay for things, it seems there's not much lads and lasses can do these days without messing up their chances of a long-term relationship.

And now a new concept, known as Boomerasking, could well identify that you're in a relationship with a narcissist, which usually doesn't end well. Because obviously we need to love ourselves, but not too much.

Narcissism isn't always easy to spot, unless you're a diagnosed narcissist in which case there's apparently one dead giveaway that identifies a person as someone who seeks validation and admiration in nearly everything they do.

It can't be easy being in a relationship with someone who constantly thinks they are the best at everything, but fortunately, if you suspect your partner might just think a bit too much of themselves, there's finally now a way to 'confirm' it.

Boomerasking is the concept where someone asks a question with the sole purpose of turning the conversation back to themselves, so they can probably tell us how great they are, or how much they make, or why we should follow their lead and quit our jobs to become a 'successful' travel influencer.

While it would be funny if it was taken from the word 'boomer', which us cool kids have come to learn means someone who is out-of-touch with modern times, it's actually derived from the beloved boomerang - hence the coming back to you element.

Don't ask your partner questions if you're just going to talk about yourself (Getty Stock Images/Peter Cabe)

To give you an example:

X person: Oh my gosh where did you get those shoes?

Y person: They're from TK Max!

X person: Wow, well mine are made from the most expensive Italian leather and were designed by Antonio Meccariello himself, but it's not about comparisons.

So, if you know a person like this, or even worse, you're dating one, then it might be time to get rid. Of course, there are always going to be times when people want to talk about themselves but hopefully they feel in a safe enough environment to do that naturally, without feeling the need to 'boomerask' the other person in the conversation first.

Also, with all things in life, you have to consider the context first. If your partner is a pub quiz host and asks you a question you don't know, and then explains the answer, maybe don't just immediately break up with them.