American living in Melbourne is ‘shocked’ Aussie men don’t buy women drinks like they do in the US

A US ex-pat has been 'shocked' by the dating culture Down Under after finding Aussie men don’t buy women drinks.

A TikToker, who goes by the name ‘Tate’ online, was amazed to find that blokes aren't as forward as men back in her home country.

The US native had moved to Melbourne and revealed in a video that she’s still adjusting to the country’s ‘norms’.

“I remember one of the first times I went out in Australia; I left the bar feeling so defeated,” she says in the clip.

“In America, it is very common for men to approach you and offer to buy you a drink. Sometimes it’s even too aggressive, like I’ve had times going out in Arizona and LA, where men will just come up to you and grab your arm [and tell you], ‘I’m buying you a drink’."

However, once she moved to Australia, she found conversing with strangers in bars less frequent.

“It's so different here,' she continues.

“Men kind of sit back, let you approach them more, and they're not as aggressive with it.

“After one of the first few times I went out, I felt like I was so ugly, I was like 'Why are these guys not approaching me?

“That sounds very conceited, but going from what I know, I just thought it was so weird that guys weren't approaching any girls.”

At one point, Tate says her Aussie friend explained that men aren’t likely to approach a stranger while out.

To which she told her friend: “‘What you have to pay for your own drinks on a night out?’”

“There were times I'd go out in America and wouldn't even bring my wallet or card or anything because we would scheme, scam, and look for men,” she adds.

“Everyone would do this, it was such a cultural norm. The guys wouldn't expect anything for it - most of the time you wouldn't get guys who were berating you for not giving them something afterwards.”

But she suspects things are different in Australia, explaining: “If a guy in Australia were to buy you a drink and you didn't engage in a conversation or want to go home with him, they'd be confused and [wonder why they bought you a drink] in the first place.”

Many (mostly Aussies) sounded off in the comment section, agreeing that they usually don't buy drinks to woo women.

One person wrote: “I don’t even buy my missus a drink; why would I buy one for strangers?”

Another said: “Cost of living is through the roof.”

While a third commented: “I went out every weekend for six years without speaking to a girl.”

Featured Image Credit: TikTok/twaynne. Hinterhaus Productions/Getty Images

Topics: News, Sex and Relationships, Australia, TikTok

Charisa Bossinakis

Charisa Bossinakis is an Associative Journalist at LADbible. Charisa has worked across various media platforms including, print, digital, radio and podcasting while maintaining the highest regard for quality work and integrity. She also covered everything from breaking news, to pop culture, entertainment and politics and is part of the editorial team for LADbible.

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