Domestic tasks when you’re in a relationship can often be a subject that creates division, especially when one partner seemingly does more than their fair share of duties.
But one woman is shocked by the reaction viewers have had to her confession that she doesn’t do certain things for her husband.
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It’s 2024 and ladies are no longer slaving away in the kitchen like it’s the 1950s and instead, tend to slave away at work like their husbands too.
However, shaking the social norm that women are the main or sole domestic caretaker can be hard.
But is it an act of kindness for our partner or is it a ‘job’ we’ve been given?
TikTok user Paige Turner came out to talk about this difference and share a detailed list of everything she won’t do for her husband, and it’s refreshing.
She said: “A few weeks ago I said that I don’t do my husband’s laundry.”
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While many people commented that doing his laundry would be a ‘small act of kindness,’ Turner didn’t agree and explained that ‘small acts of kindness that are mostly domestic labor just add up to work.’
She then listed the tasks she never does.
Laundry
Turner explained that she does her own laundry, and her husband does his own and the pair will collaborate on doing the children’s.
Dinner
She also doesn’t make dinner as she already cooks breakfast and lunch.
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Regarding a packed lunch for work, she doesn’t do that either.
Turner explained: “I don’t pack him a lunch. If he’s hungry, he’ll figure out what he’s gonna eat for lunch the same way that I do.”
Booking appointments
Not only does she not cook dinner and do his laundry, but she also doesn’t book his appointments.
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Do people do that? Jeez.
She said: “I don’t make his doctor’s appointments because, guess what? He’s not making mine.
“Would it be kind of me to do that? For sure. Is it my job? Absolutely not. I want him to be healthy, but he’s a grown-a** man, and he can book his own appointments.”
However, there are exceptions to the rules.
She admitted that she occasionally will make him dinner if he has had a long day, and that it’s not an act of kindness per se on her part.
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She explained that she is ‘his partner’ and ‘his equal’, and she does things she thinks he’ll appreciate without ‘having to cater to him and serve him at all times.’
People in the comments felt that the video was a breath of fresh air and shared their own examples of what they won’t do too.
Someone wrote: “Folded his laundry when dating, he unfolded and showed me how to do it his way, looked at him and said I think you got it. Haven’t done it since. 15 years ago.”
Another explained: “Q: Is this something he would have to do for himself if he were living alone? A: Yes. Then he can do it now... he married me, he didn’t hire me.”
However, others were stunned that she didn't consider the chores acts of kindness.
That's life.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, TikTok, Social Media, Food And Drink, Home
Britt Jones