Woman asks for help after declining ex husband’s one final request before he remarries
A woman has taken to the internet for advice after explaining that her ex-husband has called her 'unreasonable'.
The woman, who has three kids, divorced her ex-husband five years ago and they have co-parented their children ever since.
She says relations have always been amicable and before he got into a new relationship they would even do holidays and birthday parties together for the children.
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However, when her ex found a new partner, things started to change.
"My (39F) ex-husband (38M) has been dating this woman for 3 years. For context, she is 24 years old," the Redditor explained.
"My ex and I were married for 12 years, and have been divorced for 5 years, we have three kids together who are now teenagers.
"My ex and I got divorced because we were young when we met and got married and we grew apart as people.
"It was a mutual decision, and we agreed our kids came first and have always co-parented very well. This has been the case up until the last year when his girlfriend moved in with him.
"Previously we would do holidays and kids birthdays together, now when she is present they won’t even sit near me at our kids sporting events.
"I have always been nice to this women, despite my kids expressing they do not like her and they feel their dad acts differently when she is around."
The woman went on to explain that her ex's new girlfriend 'wasn't a fan' of her and said she has 'resting bi**h face'.
"My ex and her got engaged over Christmas and my kids were less than thrilled, my daughter especially. She feels her dad made a major life decision without even talking to them about it first," she continued.
Following the engagement, the woman's ex-husband has requested she change her name back to her maiden name, explaining that his new fiancé is uncomfortable about it.
"My ex called me yesterday saying he is giving me a heads up that I have a year to change my last name back to my maiden name as his finance is expressing her distaste and concern for her and I to have the same last name when they get married [sic]," she said.
"I told him we agreed in our divorce that I could keep his last name until I felt the need to change it, and that is what is listed in our paperwork. I also told him I don’t want to have a different last name than our kids."
Other Redditors were pretty clear with their views on the matter.
One wrote: "Tell him you'll only consider changing your last name back to your maiden name if you can change the kids last names also."
While another drew off their own experience, adding: "When my parents divorced my dad demanded my mom change her last name back to her maiden name and he told this to the judge.
"The judge laughed in his face and told him that’s not his or her decision, it’s my mom’s. My mom told him that she didn’t have HIS last name, she had MY last name."
And a third added: "It’s not his name anymore; it’s your name. If his fiancé doesn’t want to have the same last name as you, that’s fine. She doesn’t have to take his name. Or they can change both of their names to Mr. and Mrs. Big Crybaby."
What do you think?
Topics: Reddit, Sex and Relationships, Parenting
Lucy Devine