A man who has fashioned himself as a 'relationship expert' says men who sleep with women and then don't call them afterward are 'feminine'.
In a video shared on one of his social media accounts, Jake Maddock claimed 'masculine men' wouldn't lose interest in a woman right after sleeping with them.
A fan commented on one of his videos: "I've been told by many guys that if I'd actually slept with them on the first night, they would have never been interested after that."
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He replied with a video of his own: "A 'feminine' man would think less of you, a 'masculine' man would not."
The Australian 'relationship coach' doesn't actually divulge what a 'feminine' man and a 'masculine' man is, but, given the context of the discussion, he is portraying a 'masculine' man as being better than a so-called 'feminine' one.
It's 2023, and apparently we're still using female-gendered terms as a put-down.
The comments section descended into users debating if people should or shouldn't hook up on the first date.
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One user said: "Sleeping together on the first night is just the first interview. Getting the call back and the second date, is congratulations, you're now through to the second interview."
One woman explained: "I slept with my husband on the first date and we have been together for 12 years and married for six of them. If they want you then they will commit, if they don't then they won't. If you choose to wait and they respect that, cool. If they don't then they are not for you."
She added: "I don't know why it's an issue."
Others hit out at the disparity between the gendered language used by the so-called 'relationship expert'.
One TikTok user said: "Boys need to learn the difference between 'masculinity' and a**hole."
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A second added: "It’s more 'toxic masculine'."
While a third commented: "Bro just throws out 'masculine' and 'feminine' to justify anything."
In another video, one follower questioned Maddock about what they should do after a guy stopped calling.
The TikTok user said: "He has stopped texting me after we slept together, what do I do now?"
The 'relationship guru' - who, according to his LinkedIn, has no qualifications pertaining to life coaching, counselling, psychology, or anything in any related field to human behaviours or relationships - responded with straight-up logic.
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He replied: "What can you do? You can send a message, he doesn't respond, move on."
Sage advice from some random person, we guess.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Australia, News
Rachel Lang