A sex therapist has shared a simple trick that she says can instantly improve your love life.
Marisa Peer is a 'Rapid Transformational Therapy' trainer who can help anyone who isn't Johnny Sins be better in the bedroom.
The UK-based professional focuses on 'simple, rapid, and effective techniques' that can be summarised into one small trick.
Featuring on a 2023 episode of Steven Bartlett's Diary Of A CEO, Peer spoke about how 'your brain has the power to change your sex life'.
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During the podcast she used a 'lemon trick' on the Dragons' Den star to help prove that very point.
"Put your hand in front of your mouth, imagine you're holding half of a great, big, fat, juicy lemon, close your eyes and just put that lemon right up to your nose," she began.
"Breathe in that amazing lemon smell because nothing really smells quite like a lemon."
Peer then told him to imagine squeezing the juice out of the lemon, and chewing it.
After a few seconds, Bartlett's mouth started to salivate and there was no actual lemon involved.
That's when Peer applied the theory to maintaining one's performance during sex.
"It was in your head, it wasn't anywhere else," she added.
Expanding on the idea of how men and women can stay aroused in bed, she explained: "I get men who say, 'I can't please my wife, I can't get an erection, I can't keep it going and she's going to leave me'.
"If I tell them other things like 'you're a great lover, you can maintain an erection for 20 minutes...' that starts to happen.
"They don't do anything else except listen to a recording that says 'you have longer erections, you can have a great sex life, you can wait until your partner orgasms' and it all becomes true."
She says that if you're struggling to keep it up, the worst thing you can do is dwell on it.
Easier said than done, but Peer insists that you just have to 'change that thought'.
The sexpert also reckons that many adult film viewers who want to 'look like a porn star and have sex like a porn star' need to stop putting so much pressure on themselves.
"When you think a thought it is such a game changer," she concluded.
While I hope her advice helps, may I kindly request for you not to send any 'thank you' emails to my inbox. Cheers.
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Anish Vij