A psychiatrist has revealed one tip for men that could drastically improve their sex lives, and it's pretty simple.
Sitting down with Stephen Bartlett for his The Diary Of A CEO podcast, psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen explained how people can boost their libido and their sex life, explaining it's all to do with one body part in particular.
"If you get your brain right, your sex life gets better," Dr. Amen explained.
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"In large part, it's about blood flow. If you're having erectile dysfunction or low libido, you've got to go, well, why?
"What are the risk factors with that, and many of them relate to what's going on in your brain."
Dr. Amen also explained that getting your hormones checked is hugely important, adding: "You have to check your hormones, I think that's very important. You have to deal with whatever sexual trauma might be there.
"The biggest sex organ in the body is your brain, if there's no forethought there's no foreplay, it's about the decisions you make."
But it's not just your own brain that you'll need to think about.
Dr. Amen also explained that when it comes to arousing your partner, it all depends on what type of brain they have.
He explained how people with a 'busy frontal lobe' may have an 'automatic no' in which whatever you say, they'll say the opposite.
"I was at a lecture once and somebody came up to me during a break and said 'you've helped me so much,'" Dr. Amen recalled.
"I thought my wife just didn't love me, and what I've realised is that part of her brain was just working too hard, so now I ask everything in the opposite."
Dr. Amen advised the man to do simple things to boost his wife's serotonin, such as having a pasta dinner, going for a walk and eating a small amount of dark chocolate.
Being able to approach your partner about sex and have an open conversation may also be key in boosting your sex life, too.
Dr Karen Gurney is a recognised sexual wellbeing expert and has written several books on the topic.
She also spoke to Bartlett about the topic, explaining that pressure is a 'total passion killer'.
"Pressure is not good for our sex lives," Gurney said. "When you think about initiation it's often very much bound up in pressure."
She went on to explain that lack of communication is nearly always underpinning issues of expectation.
"The foundation of those expectations and pressure is not being able to talk about it," she continued.
"Because if you think about it what we're really wanting to say is 'I'm feeling quite stressed about the sex situation' and the fact that we don't talk about it means that those things are hanging between us."
Topics: Mental Health, Sex and Relationships, Health, YouTube, Podcast
Lucy Devine