Psychiatrist reveals the one phrase that could save your relationship if you keep arguing with your partner

As smug as some couples might seem - and as much as they like to remind you they’re together - it’s not always sunshine and rainbows in relationships.

Nope, nobody’s perfect lads and experts are often doling out advice on how to ‘save people’s relationships’ or advising on the questions that could ‘make or break’ them.

And whether it’s over what to binge next on Netflix or what sport to watch next from the Olympics or whose turn it is to empty the bin, couples often end up arguing.

Usually though, it’s nothing but a quick bicker that’s quickly moved on from. But if you find yourself regularly arguing with your partner, a psychiatrist has revealed the one phrase that could save your relationship.

Go on, just say it. (Getty Stock Image)

Although, it might be pretty hard for a lot of us to say out loud. Yep, as stubborn as you might be or as much as you don’t want to, you should probably just admit that you’re wrong.

Harvard psychiatrist Dr Frank Anderson spoke on YourTango’s Open Relationship: Transforming Together podcast about how it’s often easier to blame other people for how bad we feel when really, it’s our own responsibility.

He says that when you feel yourself getting angry with your partner, you should repeat the phrase: “When it’s intense, it’s yours.”

Dr Anderson wants you to just ask yourself: “Why am I reacting this way?”

So, instead of lashing out at your SO, you should probably dissect your own reaction to what your partner has said or done.

He explained: “Why were you so angry? And so why was it important to be angry? And what was helpful about being angry? And, you know, why did you yell at [them]? And what [were they] doing that was so horrible?"

Because who can be bothered arguing? (Getty Stock Image)

By analysing your reaction like this, you can end up escaping the heated moment before things truly boil over.

And as much as you might not want to, it might make you realise that actually, you are in the wrong.

Plus, he reckons this ‘self-reflection’ will help understand your triggers and stop them from having an impact on what should be a nice happy relationship.

When you and your partner are about to get serious, an expert reckons it’s worth asking an important question.

Love and relationship coach Sabrina Flores advised having a conversation about: “When, if ever, is it OK to lie?”

This should lead to some pretty deep chat and make sure you and your partner are on the same page but remember lads, don’t just start an argument.