Couple who go on spicy cruises reveal the downsides to their swinger lifestyle in honest admission
A couple who are no strangers to spicy cruising have shared the five downsides to their swinger lifestyle.
Bella and Jase have been documenting their sailing journey online, showcasing what it's like to be in a non-monogamous relationship.
Despite popular belief, swingers aren't just 'getting off' with everyone on-board and there are rules for passengers over international waters.
Though Bella and Jase claim there certainly are disadvantages with swinging, otherwise known as the 'Lifestyle'.
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How the community is viewed
Taking to their YouTube channel 4OURPLAY by Bella & Jase, the pair said that society look down on their community.
"Well, ethical and consensual, non monogamous relationships are 100 percent valid and loving relationships," Bella explained.
"They are not viewed this way by the majority of people.
"Just like most things that go against societal norms, there's always going to be some kind of backlash in a stigmatised community."
The cost of swinging
The cost-of-swinging crisis is a real thing and Jase says it's hard to keep up with everyone.
"So there's a lot of things that go on behind the scenes, not just the premium of paying to go to be with like minded people, but just what it takes for upkeep to keep these places running," he said.
"So for us, these vacations, these trips, really are worth it, because that cost is allowing you to go to a place that you're gonna have the most fun with, the people that you feel the best with, and we truly just love that.
"Another thing with cost is theme outfits. I think people usually don't think about themes like that, but lots of the time, we buy new outfits for theme nights, and maybe we have a piece of it, but we buy something new."
The couple said paying for date nights is also a big expense.
Compatibility
Although the pair meet a lot of people, there's always a risk of a compatibility issue.
Some, they might find physically attractive, while for others, they don't really click on a mental level.
Also, it can become a problem if the couple aren't into both people when dating.
Jealousy
It probably doesn't come as much of a shock when jealousy gets mentioned.
"Of all the issues we see couples struggle with most in the swinging lifestyle, jealousy is probably the one that we see come up most often," Bella explains.
"Seeing your partner with someone else can easily bring up thoughts of insecurities in your head that can quickly escalate, if not dealt with in a proper way."
The lack of LGBTQ plus members
Jase said: "First of all, we want everyone to welcome this lifestyle, and while gay and lesbian couples are definitely welcome, you definitely see less of them in this community.
"We have met several couples that are gay and lesbian in this space, but since there's just not that many, and from our conversation with them, a lot of times they have told us sometimes they just feel a little bit uncomfortable. Not because they don't feel welcomed, but just because there's not that many of them in this space."
Topics: Dating trends, Sex and Relationships, TikTok, YouTube, Travel, LGBTQ
Anish Vij