Netflix intimacy coach reveals his strict rule to stop reality show contestants falling for him
A TV life coach who is 'horny, but for intimacy' has revealed how he stops contestants from falling in love with him.
Brenden Durrell, who lives in Ecuador, uses his expertise to help the stars of Netflix's Too Hot To Handle get better at intimacy.
The reality dating show consists attractive singles who must resist getting intimate with one another in exchange for a cash prize, whilst testing self-control in the process.
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But Brenden covers all bases, from sex to communication, and everything in-between.
He is responsible for 'offering reflections about how they're relating with one another that offers a deeper intimacy'.
"What I've learned from most people, myself included, is that we have these two major fears: fear of the unknown, and then fear of intimacy," he explained to The Sun.
"I'm like, I'm going to create a brand around that because I want to support people in those two fears and getting rid of them.
"We're doing multimedia projects, retreats, workshops, and a lot of ecotourism because a big part of intimacy work for me is going into nature.
"I go into the Amazon rainforest all the time. I go up to the volcanoes all the time here and, for me, it goes hand in hand."
However, in the meantime, Brenden has to make sure contestants don't fall in love with him.
"It's a difficult thing. Within the show and my work and retreats and workshops, never," he said.
"I have a really firm boundary in the realms of like, 'no, it's okay you feel that way, but I represent something for you, I'm not that thing for you'.
"That's the way that I go about it, and in the case of Too Hot To Handle I'm forever 'big bro'.
"I don't come in like an authoritative figure like, 'Hey, listen to me, my way or the highway'. I'm like, 'no, I'm big bro and you can feel safe with me and work that way'."
He continued: "But I do get my fair share of wild messages. Like if we did a series on that you'd be in stitches laughing because some of it... I feel violated with some of the stuff that I get.
"But it's all in good faith. I'm grateful that I can be in position where, you know, I am attractive to people in a lot of ways."
Brenden, who has spent five seasons on the show, also said that he would love to work on Love Island, adding: "Let's get it on record. I would love to work for Love Island.
"So producers like just bring me out. I would love to be on Love is Blind also, that's another one."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, TV, Netflix
Anish Vij