Mum Sparks Cutlery Debate After Admitting She Holds Knife In Left Hand
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A woman has reached out to the online Mumsnet community about cutlery etiquette, saying her partner mocks her for holding her knife in her left hand and her fork in the other, despite being right-handed.
The user asked others if she was being unreasonable (AIBU, to those not au fait with Mumsnet shorthand) 'to think it doesn't really matter'.
She wrote on the parenting forum: "I'm right-handed. I hold my fork in my right hand and knife in left.
"This is the way I've always done it and felt comfortable, was never told or taught the correct way.
"For years my partner has joked about how I can't hold a knife and fork properly and even mentioned trying it the other way.
"I've tried - it doesn't feel right to me. He told me that his mother would probably tell me to switch hands as it's her 'pet hate'.
"We've been together for 9 years. He's not mentioned it for a while (until tonight) and I've avoided eating in front of his mother as much as possible else I feel paranoid. Feel like I'm being watched!"
The mum added that generally her table manners are 'okay'.
"I'm not a complete slob when It comes to eating or anything!" she wrote.
Some of her fellow users replied to say she was being 'very unreasonable' (YABVU), with some saying they judged others for such habits.
"Well I'd definitely notice and judge you for it I'm afraid," one wrote.
"It's about table manners. 'It isn't comfortable for me' is a bit of a pathetic excuse."
Someone else argued it 'shows a disregard for social norms and disrespect', saying it was 'general laziness' if she 'can't be bothered spending a bit of time learning to do it properly'.
However, the general consensus seemed to be that the unnamed woman wasn't being particularly unreasonable about the matter (YANBU).
Someone told her: "I would just ignore or take the p*** out of the way your partner holds theirs, that's what I've done to my husband in the past. Don't let it put you off of eating in front of people, especially his mother!"
Another added: "Do what you feel most comfortable and ignore comments from small minded people."
Someone else simply suggested: "Fork 'em!"
Just wait until those haters find out some of us have the gall to not even use a knife at all...