Sex Expert Explains Why ‘Blue Balls’ Isn’t An Actual Thing

It’s a phrase women often hear in the bedroom, but sex expert Nadia Bokody is dropping truth bombs about 'blue balls'.

Men will sometimes claim they are suffering from the affliction when they are denied sexual pleasure that amounts to a climax.

Things might get hot and heavy in the bedroom and then if the intercourse stops, for whatever reason, some blokes will say they have blue balls because they didn't get to 'finish'.

However, Nadia has explained in a news.com.au article that blue balls isn’t real and is instead used a ‘guilt tactic’.

Bokody is slamming men who claim to have blue balls, as it's a ‘grimy, coercive experience’ that puts the onus on their partner for their erection.

She also said this feeling of responsibility is way too familiar amongst most women - something comedian Nikki Glaser accurately describes in her 2019 Netflix special, Bangin’.

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In her special, Glaser says: “If you make a guy hard … You have to see it through.”

Bokody dispelled rumours of blue balls being a severe medical condition stating: “A build-up of blood flow to the genitals that doesn’t culminate in a release (read: climax) can result in a few minutes or hours of discomfort, regardless of whether you have a penis or not.

“There are to date, no known cases of men dying clutching desperately at their engorged testicles, choking out the words, 'If only my wife had been in the mood!'”

She explained that, at the very worst, men might suffer from ‘Epididymal Hypertension’, which causes minor discomfort, and the cure doesn’t involve sexual arousal.

Nadia cited the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, which suggested blue balls has led to at least 80 per cent of women feeling pressured into sex.

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However, Bokody said there’s no female equivalent for blue balls and it’s only worked its way into male vernacular.

Hmmmm noted….we’ve definitely never the term blue vulva or cranky clitoris.

Sexual health GP Dr George Forgan-Smith also confirmed if one were to experience Epididymal Hypertension, it would only be slightly uncomfortable and last around 20-30 minutes.

“It’s easily treated, you can go to the bathroom and have a w**k or you could just do something else, find something that’s not arousing, go do your taxes!," he said.

"Do something that’s absolutely not sexual to get the blood flow out of the area and it all settles down again.”

So there you go, to all you soft bois claiming you're in pain and urgently need to ejaculate; better luck with a cold shower!