Biggest concern men with big penises have, according to sex therapist
Many men with large members share the same fear in the bedroom
A number of men with large members have shared the same fear they have with the condition.
Many will wonder what the big deal is, with a lot of young men nowadays believing that penis size is paramount in the world of sex and relationships.
Thanks to pressure from society and social media, the idea of a bigger penis meaning greater attractiveness has widely been accepted by many.
But as cliché as it sounds, bigger doesn't always mean better, as experts have shared their own experiences with people who can attest to this belief.
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Recently, more men claiming to have remarkably large or small manhoods have come forward to open up about their experiences, aiming to dispel the stigmas around their conditions.
When it comes to the former, there are a number of issues someone might face with all that down there.
It goes without saying that the digital age has played a part, with the ease of accessibility to pornography and adult content, along with its rise in popularity, playing its part on men's mental health.
Data reveals that young people in particular have been affected.
LADbible's For F**k's Sake campaign, which sparked an honest conversation about porn, showed that 77 percent of Gen Z who consume porn showed that 49% say watching porn has changed their expectations for sex.
It also found that 77% of young people want more resources to help better navigate porn and sex.
Dr. Mindy DeSeta, Ph.D., a certified sexologist and sexuality educator at Hily Dating App, explained to Huffington Post that 'many' of her clients have reported similar challenges when it comes to intimacy.
The expert said that people believe having a big penis often means they're amazing in bed, which 'puts a lot of pressure...to perform and give their partner an out-of-this-world orgasm'.
She explained: "On one hand, they feel pressure to live up to the societal expectations of impressive sexual performances, and on the other, they are worried about hurting their partner."
This can lead to them avoiding sex altogether, though Dr. Rod Mitchell, a registered psychologist who specialises in sex therapy and trauma recovery, says that some men with seven inches or more downstairs can have trauma due to causing partners pain during sex.
He said it's an 'empathic injury' which can build up over time.
Dr. Mitchell went on: "Every time your partner winces or says ‘wait, that hurts,’ you’re absorbing a micro-trauma. These men carry around the weight of having hurt someone they love, over and over, with their own body."
He said that performance anxiety is actually a trauma response, as your nervous system is stopping you from causing harm.
The doctor went on: "Your body treats repeated sexual discomfort or pain as a threat.
"Guilt rewires your brain to see intimacy as dangerous, then anxiety kicks in before sex even starts, triggering a stress response that redirects blood away from your genitals."
He pointed out that some may finish within seconds as the body tries to escape this threat, with the 'failure' to perform causing more shame.
Topics: Health, Mental Health, Sex and Relationships, Community
Joshua Nair