Apparently, there's one main difference between how men and women cheat on each other, if a private investigator is to be believed.
Raymond Ranno has over three decades of experience in the field, owning his own PI agency in Connecticut, USA.
The industry veteran says that he has worked with 'hundreds of attorneys, insurance companies, self insured companies, police departments, universities and the private sector'.
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He claims that 'about 40 percent' of his work consists of spying on cheating couples, who give away more or less the same clues as other men and women.
Apparently, though there may be similar signs and giveaways, there is a big difference between what men focus on when trying to get away with it, compared to women.
The private investigator highlights the lengths that men and women would go to so they can cheat, and how you can catch them in the act if you're suspect of their behaviour.
Raymond explained all in an interview on Locked In with Ian Bick, saying: "If I go into a coffee place, or a supermarket wherever I need to be, I just take the lid off turn it on put the cap on and it looks like I'm walking around with a coffee.
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"Meantime I'm videotaping everything."
He says that for men, having a 'clean car' is a big clue.
“If a guy's going to pick up his sweetie on the side, he wants a clean car," he said.
“As soon as somebody goes to the car wash I think ‘Ha ha, what's next?’ It’s amazing how they do that."
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He then revealed the difference in how women behave when chaeating, sating it's 'pretty much the opposite for women'. "Women not so much... because they usually jump in the guy's car," he said.
"Men always want to drive. It's very rare that I see a guy jump into a female's car."
Raymond then said he's even seen cheaters picking up their flings 'on the same street' as their own homes. Yikes.
This comes after a relationship expert with a doctoral degree in psychology - who has 'seen hundreds of clients who have gotten cheated on' - revealed the three most common signs of cheating.
Improving physical appearance
The New York based TikToker 'Ask Kimberly' claimed that if your partner is all of a sudden starting to improve their physical appearance, it could be an indicator something is going on and is often one of the first signs.
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"So all of a sudden, they start going to the gym, or wearing cologne, or buying new underwear for themselves," Kimberly explained.
"The reason why cheaters do this is because essentially, they're back on the market. They're putting their best foot forward for someone else when they've kind of given up on trying to impress you.
"So that's why physical appearance is literally one of the first things that people notice when their partners cheating.
"It's like, they didn't care at all, they weren't putting any effort in and now all of a sudden, they're super concerned with how they look."
Phone guarding
If you're sat next to your partner and they won't let you anywhere near their phone, it's worth exploring why.
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"When someone is cheating their phone is literally their lifeline," Kimberley said.
"If they're cheating on you, there's almost a 100 percent chance they are texting and exchanging DMs with this person and the phone houses all of that evidence.
"And they know like the minute you get your hands on that phone or see something on their phone, it's over."
Time
This sounds a bit odd, but cheating requires a lot of time and effort to make it work.
Excuses like 'travelling for work' aren't just decided overnight.
"Travelling for work is the biggest way that cheaters accomplish this time and space, whether they're actually travelling for work or pretending to travel for work," the expert said.
"And when they're travelling and you ask them how their day was they're gonna give you some big, long lengthy explanation about how their day was and what they did.
"They do this to placate you. They want to overload you with information so that you'll stop asking questions."
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Joshua Nair