Key element to maintain a happy relationship revealed by psychologist
Falling in love can be one of the best feelings in the world, with the honeymoon stage being a time where you would do anything for your partner, and they can almost do no wrong.
Unfortunately though, the rose-tinted glasses have to come off at some point, and reality hits hard, meaning we have to put more effort in to get that 'honeymoon' period back in the relationship.
Psychologist Limor Gottlieb is a relationship expert, who explained that as time passes, relationships 'can become routine and predictable', which can be the death of them if not tended to.
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She further explained that research shows that couples stuck in this rut will experience dissatisfaction over time.
"To counteract this, my number one advice to couples for fostering a happy relationship is to prioritise novelty," she revealed.
So what is novelty?
According to Gottlieb: "Novelty refers to introducing new and exciting experiences, activities and elements into the relationship regularly. Novelty plays a significant role in keeping the relationship fresh, exciting and vibrant."
This would introduce the elements of excitement and surprise once again, which in turn will bring in similar levels passion and intimacy from your early stages.
She explains that it could be anything from trying new activities or going to new places, or it could be something smaller like thoughtful little gestures or 'trying new things in the bedroom'.
The relationship guru has explained five ways you can introduce the element of novelty into your relationship.
New traditions and rituals
Relationship psychologists refer to traditions and rituals as 'rituals of connection'.
This could be anything, from set weekly date nights, undertaking a new adventure each month, or a big annual holiday to celebrate your anniversary, all of which boosts your connection to one another.
Push yourself out of your comfort zone
It's important that you both push yourselves, trying activities you have never done before, which could be salsa lessons, taking a hike at dawn or taking part in a class together.
Gottlieb explains: "According to research, couples who participate in challenging tasks together tend to feel more in love than those who engage in mundane activities.
"Additionally, spending time on unfamiliar activities, such as rock climbing or learning a new language, can provide a challenge and working towards a shared goal can strengthen the bond between partners and foster a sense of closeness."
Travel, travel, travel
Who doesn't love a change of scenery? Take trips to places that neither of you have been to before - it may be a getaway to that village out of town you've always wanted to visit, or something more extravagant like a huge summer getaway abroad.
"Traveling together can create lasting memories and strengthen the bond between partners," she stated.
Plan surprises
Small unexpected gifts or gestures go a long way to introducing novelty into your relationship.
You could prepare their favourite meal or even take your partner out for a spontaneous meal or activity, adding some spice to everyday life.
Gottlieb says these 'keep the relationship exciting' and shows your partner that you still think of them throughout the day.
Don't stick to the same routine
It's crucial that you aren't so stuck in your ways, try attending unfamiliar events and shows, explore interesting areas in the town/city you're in, vary your weekend activities.
These all 'add a sense of freshness' to the relationship, and new things will give you more experiences and things to talk about too.
The expert highlights that 'communication is key', as discussing interests and ideas with each other will keep you both engaged in the long-term, welcoming the idea of novelty.
"It’s important to regularly reflect on your relationship and discuss ways to keep it exciting and fulfilling.
"By prioritising new experiences and embracing spontaneity, your relationship will not only survive, but thrive," Gottlieb concluded.
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Joshua Nair