Texting while dating is inevitable, but there’s something you should never do.
Sabrina Zohar, a dating coach on TikTok who is ‘tired of the BS’ has opened up about this texting habit you need to stop going while dating.
It’s hard to put into words that you’re interested in someone, and once you finally pluck up the courage to do so, it’s only half the battle.
Not only do you now have to wade through the waters of making sure that you’re a good match, but you also have to oftentimes do this through text, which leaves little room for tone changes.
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There’s the things you shouldn’t say to them, to working out whether you’re being too needy or not.
If that’s not hard enough, you might start off having long paragraphs with this person, and everything seems to be engaging and fun, but suddenly things begin to slow down.
Was it something you said? Are they still interested in you?
What’s going on?
Well, here’s a tip from Zohar.
The relationship expert said to her followers: “If you’re texting with the person you’re dating and this happens, I want you to stop immediately.”
What could it possibly be?
It’s the dreaded one-word replies.
She explained in her video: “If you guys are chatting, and you start to see this person is kind of getting down to the one-word answers, or you start to see that the conversation is dissipating, and they just react to a message, they heart it, they thumb it up, they do something- you f**king leave it.”
Woah, that’s blunt, but it’s a dose of reality that she believes a lot of people need to be given.
That’s because you’re being given a clear sign by the other person, and you can’t ignore it.
She went on to say that ‘this is not your invitation to keep the conversation going’ and attempt to grasp at anything that will make this person respond to you in a more meaningful way.
Now, if you feel terrified of leaving the conversation like that and your anxiety starts to flare up, that’s when she reveals: "This isn’t a place for anxiety to go, 'okay, say something that-', just to keep them on."
She revealed that if a person you’re dating is responding in such a way to you, then it is them ‘setting a boundary that they are done with the conversation’.
While it might be hard to adjust to, you don’t have to try hard to pull responses from someone who doesn’t want to engage with you properly.
Zohar said: “When someone just hearts a message and leaves it, and they don’t respond after it, do not double text, triple text and get them to get back into it.”
What you should do, is to just go with the flow.
She advised: “Instead, just leave it.
“That is their ending place for the conversation. Respect it, and when they wanna pick back up on the conversation, let them contact you.”
By leaving the ball in their court, you’ll be able to figure out how they interact with you and when they want to talk with you.
If they never text again, then it wasn’t meant to be.
If they respond the next day with a cool story, then you know they’ve been thinking of you.
Topics: Dating trends, Sex and Relationships, TikTok, Social Media
Britt Jones