Woman defended after revealing how husband reacted when he found her ‘toy’

A woman has been told she was in the right after asking the internet for some relationship advice.

Hopping online, the 23-year-old woman outlined her situation as she came home one day to discover her 30-year-old husband being 'very stand off ish' and not wanting to talk much.

Since he wasn't talking very much she got her Kindle and started reading instead, which didn't seem to soothe any tensions.

Later in the day as they were going to bed she was reading her Kindle again when her husband grabbed the device from her hands and chucked it across the room.

At this point she was naturally thinking 'what the actual f**k', and it turned out he'd found her 'toy', which she said she'd never actually used and had bought out of curiosity.

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He then accused her of being unsatisfied with him, of cheating on him, of wanting to cheat on him and considering withholding sex from him, all of which she said were untrue.

Seeking some relationship advice from the helpful denizens of the internet she hopped online to ask if this was a normal interaction and what people's advice might be.

"He threw your Kindle?? Throw that man in the trash," was the most popular response, and while anyone who's looked up relationship advice on the internet will know 'dump him' is almost always among the responses there were plenty more explaining to the woman why she should consider it.

Someone else said a if a partner 'threw a tantrum about it and tried to DESTROY MY THINGS' that would be a deal breaker for them.

Others warned that 'destroying personal property is an early stage of domestic violence'.

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Someone else brought up a double standard when they asked if her husband had ever been chocking the chicken during their relationship.

According to the woman he had but said 'that's different' when she brought it up, and several said this was a 'red flag'.

Lots more suggested the husband's reaction could be pointing towards some deeper 'insecurity', and that he was 'jealous of the vibrator'.

Someone else in the woman's situation said her partner 'threw a tantrum' after discovering her sex toy and explained that they were now no longer together.

Others who weren't calling it grounds for divorce instead suggested that counselling might be the answer, while another said that feeling 'put out' would be normal but what certainly wasn't was grabbing something out of his wife's hands and throwing it across the room.

Topics: Sex and Relationships, Reddit

Joe Harker

Joe graduated from the University of Salford with a degree in Journalism and worked for Reach before joining the LADbible Group. When not writing he enjoys the nerdier things in life like painting wargaming miniatures and chatting with other nerds on the internet. He's also spent a few years coaching fencing. Contact him via [email protected]

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