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Topics: Health, Lifestyle, YouTube, Sex and Relationships
Joshua Nair
Topics: Health, Lifestyle, YouTube, Sex and Relationships
For a lot of lads, lasting in the sack can be a huge challenge, but a sex coach has given some key advice to men.
If you want to treat sex like an athletic event, there are coaches and professionals in the field that you can listen to and learn from to improve your 'personal best', and give your partner more to enjoy.
One of these aforementioned sex coaches is Rosa Maxwell, who spoke on The Fellas podcast with social media creators Calfreezy and TheBurntChip on YouTube back in 2022.
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She revealed a few tips to men on how you can delay or prolong your 'final action', as there are a number of things you can do to last longer.
Maxwell said: "Kegel muscles are like, you have lots of different muscle groups in your pelvis, and the kegels are one of those.
"So by squeezing and releasing those, you can strengthen them. It can help you control ejaculation.
"A lot of the work that I do, I use a lot of breathwork techniques. There are particular techniques as well that you can do where you breathe in and squeeze those muscles.
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"To squeeze them, it's basically kind of like stopping yourself from having a p**s or a s**t. It's the same feeling."
How lovely, I really can't think of anything more erotic.
Rosa was also keen to emphasise that sex isn't all about finishing, or when you finish, adding that the average bonk duration might not be as long as you'd think.
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She said: "This is a big insecurity that men can experience, that length of time.
"Firstly, I want to say that the average time I think is around seven minutes, that's the average."
She went on to explain that a climax doesn't necessarily have to be the climax of the sex sesh for either party (or any party, if there's more than the two of you involved in said sex sesh).
She said: "Everyone is so different, and sex doesn't just have to be penis in vagina, or anything like that.
"So even if you orgasm quickly as a man, I really want to normalise all of this, because it's so normal.
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"I want people not to feel shame around it; a huge part of the work I do is deshamification of everything, because shame is such a rubbish emotion."
She continued: "If you do orgasm quickly, and you're like, 'Oh, yeah, amazing orgasm,' that's such an awesome mindset to have.
"Then you can spend time pleasuring your partner, if they still desire an orgasm, and they still desire to continue the sexual exploration.
"It doesn't have to end when one person c**s."
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And if you're after some unprofessional tips to help you last longer, I can recommend drinking excessively or visualising something grim and uninspiring, like a wet pavement or a spreadsheet.