Diagnosed psychopath who doesn’t feel 'love’ opens up on why she chooses to be in a relationship

Throwing out the word ‘psycho’ can often crop up when describing your mate’s ex or in anger to describe someone acting ‘crazy’.

But while we may know more about psychopaths from fictional villains, being one in real life stems from a mental health condition.

And while she can’t feel ‘love’, a ‘diagnosed psychopath' has opened up about why she chooses to be in a relationship.

With a high following on TikTok, content creator Vic (@victhepath) has Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), a condition characterised by impulsive, irresponsible, and often criminal behaviour. The NHS say this shows in a person by them being manipulative, deceitful, and reckless, with no regard for other people’s feelings.

The creator has previously opened up about not being able to ‘understand love’, saying she has had more ‘flings’ than relationships.

But in one clip, she wanted to explain how she can have friends and be in a relationship when she doesn’t ‘have the capacity for love’.

“This question always confuses me, because I feel like it’s obvious that you can still enjoy something without being in love with it,” she said. “You don’t have to love everything that you like. You don't have to love everyone that you like.”

Vic goes on to say that relationships don’t kick off with people ‘in love’ but rather ‘enjoying each other’ before it ‘grows into love’.

So, she continued: “Just take the last step of falling in love, being in love with each other out of the equation [and] it works exactly the same.

“Just because I don’t love somebody doesn’t mean I don’t like them and I can’t enjoy their company.”

She went on to add that she gets on with certain people better than she does with others.

“So, if I meet somebody that I click with and that's easy and enjoyable to be around, then maybe we'll be friends, maybe we'll be in a relationship,” Vic said.

“And I don't think that's abnormal at all. I think that's how all relationships start, and you just never leave that starting phase of enjoying each other but not loving each other.”

Justifying all of this, Vic simply added that it’s ‘fun’ to surround yourself with people you ‘like’ and that it’s fun to have friends and have a boyfriend.

“So why would I not?” she asked.

Users praised her explanation while some couldn’t tell a difference in her justification between friends and partners.