33-Year-Old Virgin Creates Dating App For People Who Don’t Want To Have Sex
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A woman has created an app for people who aren't having any sex, having felt the sexually abstinent community was being underrepresented.
Shakia Seabrook, 33, set up 'The Sexless Tribe' as a hub for people like her, who choose to remain abstinent, as she felt the lifestyle was 'not visible enough'.
Seabrook, from Tampa in Florida, decided to go ahead with the idea when she realised it was what God wanted.
"God just kept showing me this is what I'm calling you to do," she explained.
"I pushed back against it because it wasn't a topic that I was super passionate about. In 2020, I finally gave God my yes and went full throttle from then on out.
"I started the t-shirts and then I realized it wasn't enough because people wanted community. I came across someone that had created an app and I was like that's what we need: we need a home, we need a place that we can come together and connect."
The app has two facets to it, with a resource space for people to access materials and TST social, a community space for users to interact with one another.
"There are events that are hosted in the app every month via Zoom," Seabrook said.
"Every day they get an encouraging quote to their phone, and they get a late-night check-in just to hold them accountable.
"I tell them at night maybe you're having a little itch, maybe you need to go to the app and listen to a song or a video or a podcast."
While the app is still in beta mode, Seabrook says there have been more than 8,000 downloads for both parts of the app, which are being used by people globally.
Seabrook is a Christian, but her decision to remain abstinent wasn't all down to religion.
She continued: "Even though I'm a Christian, my why wasn't initially rooted in God, but it's matured more over the years and God now is a part of that foundation.
"I can remember as early as 13 making the decision. I don't know why I made that decision at 13, but as I got older, seeing how casual sex was happening, it was nothing I desired. It didn't look super special and fun.
"The right person is a man that stands before me, God, friends and family and takes some vows."
She added that the app isn't just for Christians, either, saying: "All are welcome. I didn't create it only for Christians, I created it for anyone who's living this lifestyle."
Seabrook said she's not received any bad feedback about the app, but admitted some people do react negatively to her videos.
"I do get backlash from videos I make, especially about me being a virgin," she said.
"Which blows my mind because if you watch any of my videos. I tell people I'm not here to convince, condemn or convict. I'm just sharing my truth.
"I'm literally just saying a fact that's true to me, but somehow people are saying I'm imposing my beliefs on other people or I'm shaming people who are non-virgins."
Seabrook insists that she isn't there to judge, and simply wants to 'stand as the voice and face and letting people know that there is an option'.
She said: "I feel like in order to make an informed decision with anything you have to be informed of all the options and I think the time that we're living in there's only one option being pushed and it's sex," she said.
"If people choose to do that, I don't have anything to say about it, I just think we're doing a disservice to the youth."
Seabrook added: "I just love being able to allow people to see that there is a different option and really give a new face and voice to what it's like to live abstinent.
"People think they know what a virgin looks or acts like, so just showing them that we're out here and we're cute and we're living and we're fun, but we just made a decision in regard to our sexuality."
The Sexless Tribe app and store can be found at thesexlesstribe.com.
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