Woman refuses to split bill on dates because men should reward her 'time and effort'
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A woman says she would never split the bill on a first date but insists she’s not a ‘gold digger’, simply saying she has high-standards.
Ella, a dating coach from New York, said: "I grew up with a providing father and a nurturing mother who had the luxury of raising her children and being a stay-home mother.
"By splitting the bill, I'm agreeing to form a connection with a man who doesn't know his role in a relationship and expects me to be 50 percent of the man he's not.
"I've learned that men who split the bill don't value the time and effort a woman puts into herself to look her best for that man.
"Plus 50/50 men don't understand that the woman's investment was made prior to the date.
"By not agreeing to split the bill the woman keeps her dignity intact and avoids bad experiences with men."
Ella stresses that she’s not a ‘money-hungry’ gold digger, but encourages women to ‘ask for what they want’.
Despite the backlash she has received online, Ella claims there are many misconceptions about women who demand more from their men.
She said: "Most people think that we're selfish, but I don't think that's the truth.
“A high-value woman knows what she brings to the table and expects the same in return.
"Another assumption is [that] we don't work or we're lazy, but a woman with high standards in dating always makes sure that the man is able to provide for both, in case she doesn't want to work.
"I've seen women building their businesses and focusing on themselves while being provided for by a man.
"And as being reduced to our looks, although a woman's beauty is a valuable aspect, we understand the value a woman brings to a relationship, such as emotional stability, nurturing qualities, and support.
"Many studies have shown that men can't live without a woman — we better a man's life in all aspects, and since we know what we bring, we expect the man to bring his part."
Ella says that her advice has helped her clients drastically improve their love lives.
"I helped a girl who had a past of dating broke men who did nothing for her and she confessed to me that she was tired of splitting the bill, getting disrespected, and being cheated on,” she said.
"After I coached her, she was able to build her self-esteem and gain confidence in herself. Now she's in a stable relationship where she is fully provided for and her boyfriend founded her successful business.”