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Swinger explains reality of lifestyle after hitting back at couple who banned 'ugly people' from joining club

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Published 11:26 3 Sep 2025 GMT+1

Swinger explains reality of lifestyle after hitting back at couple who banned 'ugly people' from joining club

People in the swinging community aren't best pleased with the couple's comments

Joshua Nair

Joshua Nair

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A swinger has responded to a couple who claimed to have their own exclusive club which bans 'ugly people' from joining.

Claiming to be sex-positive, couple Tanya and Ashley Marum married in 2019 before venturing into the non-monogamous lifestyle in recent years.

Following an appearance on on the Channel 4 hit show Open House: The Great Sex Experiment, the pair have remained in the public eye.

Recently, they claimed to have their own private club for like-minded people in what Tanya called 'an accepting community'.

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However, they claim that they vet people who join because they 'don't want people there who the majority would think are unattractive'.

"We want to try to get people to come that they might not be your type but they're nice looking and take care of themselves," they said in a recent controversial interview.

Tanya and Ashley have been swinging for six years now (Kennedy News and Media)
Tanya and Ashley have been swinging for six years now (Kennedy News and Media)

Now, it looks like some disgruntled members of the community have responded, as they claim that their comments aren't representative of the lifestyle at all.

Given that the couple praised how 'accepting' people are, many have found it ironic that they're discriminating against appearance.

TikTok user @red_ammunition_1 posted a video in response to their comments, explaining: "I own a club so I am in a position to speak. People are not vetted on how they look. I would close the doors before I allowed that to happen."

She said that the couple 'think that they're all that', but added: "You don't own a club, darling, you might have a few friends that you go to clubs with and you hire a club, you don't own one."

Kerry went on: "Secondly, you both ain't all that OK, and thirdly, people don't get vetted on looks in the lifestyle.

"People like you are really putting a bad name out there and I'm gonna personally pre-bar you from my club. You won't have a host in my club and all you are doing is making sure that other people feel that they can't go into the lifestyle."

Tanya and Ashley Marum have been slammed by a swinging club owner (Kennedy News and Media)
Tanya and Ashley Marum have been slammed by a swinging club owner (Kennedy News and Media)

The swingers' club owner said that she coaches people to accept how they look as they are welcome into the lifestyle regardless, while they're 'doing the exact opposite'.

"You're giving the lifestyle a bad name. The lifestyle is about everybody being on a leveller. The lifestyle is about welcoming anybody regardless of shape, colour, size, background. It's not about picking and choosing people," Kerry said.

She sent a scathing message out to them, telling them that they simply don't know what they're talking about.

"Tanya gives advice on the lifestyle, when you are picking and choosing who you feel can go in. What's ugly to a person and what's ugly to another person? I'm totally in shock," the club owner admitted.

Kerry added that they're now being trashed in WhatsApp groups by 'real' swingers as she vowed to 'stay away from your events with a 10 foot pole', hoping that people don't go to their events as a result.

Featured Image Credit: Kennedy News and Media

Topics: TikTok, Lifestyle, Sex and Relationships

Joshua Nair
Joshua Nair

Joshua Nair is a journalist at LADbible. Born in Malaysia and raised in Dubai, he has always been interested in writing about a range of subjects, from sports to trending pop culture news. After graduating from Oxford Brookes University with a BA in Media, Journalism and Publishing, he got a job freelance writing for SPORTbible while working in marketing before landing a full-time role at LADbible. Unfortunately, he's unhealthily obsessed with Manchester United, which takes its toll on his mental and physical health. Daily.

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