‘Hotwife’ debunks major misconception people get wrong about lifestyle
For anyone familiar with the term 'hotwifing', the word will likely conjure up exaggerated scenes of cuckolding or one spouse having a harem of lovers on the go.
That's assuming you're familiar with the term hotwifing (or hothusbanding) to begin with, which isn't another way to say your partner is pretty fit.
So if you're not up to date, here's a super quick recap on what hotwifing or hothusbanding is. The term fits under the broader umbrella term of consensual or ethical non-monogamy and describes a person who derives pleasure from seeing their partner get it on with another person.
So you can see where the stereotypes and misconceptions come into play with this one.
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However, one person who practices the lifestyle wants to set the record straight on this topic.
Sharing her experience with fellow adult content creator Adreena Winters, adult performer Hotwife Alice revealed that the non-monogamous aspects of her relationship are not based on jealousy.
"I think a bit of a misconception is that it comes from a like controlling angle or it has to always be about humiliation, because mine and [her partner's relationship] is like the complete opposite of that," Alice explained.
"I think a lot of misconceptions about maybe swinging or cuckolding or the lifestyle is that it always comes from one person and a bit of control," she continued.
"It’s all equal. It’s not like we’re doing it to get something over on someone or try and make someone jealous... It all comes from a very mutual grounding."
She went on to add that stereotypical portrayals of cockolding in porn also contribute to misconceptions, highlighting that there is no specific 'look' for a person who enjoys watching their partner get it on.
"You can still be really hot yourself, be in good shape, like be a normal human in society and still like being a cuck," she added.
Alice also revealed that she's been faced with misconceptions when opening up to friends and family about her chosen lifestyle.
"When I'd open up to like my family and friends, they'd be like, 'Oh, he's having his cake and eating it'. [or] 'Oh, he's making you do it'," she explained.
"And then like the more they got to know our dynamic and our relationship, they were like, 'Absolutely not'."
Alice isn't the only person who's spoken candidly about her hotwifing, with life coach Carli Foster previously telling LADbible that it had been 'a very liberating and empowering experience' for her.
"It's great for both of us because he gets a lot of sexual pleasure from it, so it's obviously fulfilling his fantasies and desires, but it was framed to me so I could go out and have some fun," she said.
"If it's the right dynamic for people it can be really empowering and enjoyable for both parties, done the right way."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Lifestyle
Brenna Cooper