Woman's husband made comment after she got terminal cancer diagnosis before she left him to sleep with 100 men
Imagine your better half swerving the conversation back to their own meagre problems right after you get a terminal Big C diagnosis.
That's what the late New Yorker Molly Kochan had to endure from her husband back in 2015, fresh from receiving eventually life-ending cancer news from the doctor.
Having overcome breast cancer to begin with - involving chemotherapy, radiotherapy, a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction surgery - this poor woman discovered that the disease had returned with devastating force, seeping into her bones, liver and brain.
Even though her husband looked after Kochan throughout the initial cancer journey, they'd parted both sexually and emotionally from each other, which in turn led to a bizarre response to his dying wife's situation.
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As is brought to life by Oscar-nominated star Michelle Williams in the serial adaptation of Kochan's life there afterwards, Dying For Sex, she immediately ditched him and spent her remaining days exploring the male menu, so to speak.
"Can we now get back to why I'm so angry?" was the straw that broke the camel's back, according to Kochan's podcast.
Before her death in March 2019, which stopped her run of sleeping with 188 men after leaving her husband, Kochan shared a final message to the world via her anonymous blog, 'Everything Leads to This'.
This was preceded by: "I liked not identifying with the disease. Not having people look at me with pity or sorrow.
"I liked going through treatment and not having people ever ask me how I was feeling as though I were more fragile than they are. Holding on to the secret of what I was going through became more difficult than having to field potentially awkward reactions. Because I have navigated this for some time, I know what is helpful to me and what isn't."
Her final message was simply titled 'I have died'.
"I don't have those kinds of life lessons to share," Kochan went on to write for this posthumously published piece.
"I know what I did at the end of my life. I know what brought me joy. But my list would surely not affect you."
She'd noticed that a number of her friends reached out after the diagnosis, but they didn't ever make the effort to meet up with her face to face.
"Through the drop ins and outs, I realised that people are going to do whatever they’re going to do regardless of what they want to want. Even me.
"Wasn't that freeing? I didn't have to buy tickets to Bora Bora, I could spend days in bed, even though I wanted to want to be productive."
Topics: Cancer, Sex and Relationships
Dan Seddon