Man who's had 14,600 swipes on Tinder still hasn't found 'special someone'
For some guys, to be given the title of 'Mr Tinder' would be a dream come true.
Opening your phone and receiving dozens of messages is what it's all about, right? Well, maybe not.
Stefan-Pierre Tomlin is a model and actor, and was once one of the most eligible bachelors on the dating app, with over 14,000 matches.
But now, 32 years old, he says that he's still struggling to find the one.
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"It was nearly a decade ago when a work friend told me about the dating app Tinder," he wrote in Metro.
"My colleague said Tinder was fun and that I’d do well on it, so I signed up and soon got addicted.
"By 2017, I’d had 14,600 right-swipes and received an email from Tinder saying I was on a shortlist of the 30 most-fancied people in the UK."
He quickly became something of a celebrity, doing interviews and photoshoots for magazines and newspapers.
Everyone wanted to know what his secret was, aside from being really, really, really ridiculously good looking, of course.
Stefan said: "I got more than 1,000 messages a day. I tried to answer as many as I could but didn’t have the time to open half of them.
"I loved the attention and being ‘famous’ – it was so exciting, especially because the girls at school who had never paid me any attention started popping up in Messenger, wanting to be friends."
But despite all the messages, the likes, and the articles, he couldn't find someone to settle down with.
Stefan said that he's had a couple of serious relationships in that time, but they didn't work out, in part because of his fast-paced lifestyle.
He said: "When you get involved in a relationship with me, you get all the perks, the glitz and glamour – the fancy restaurants, the nice holidays and the Insta-fame – but there’s a fine line between work and personal life.
"I try to keep them separate but it doesn’t always work.
"I’ve dated a few celebrities because, unless you’re in this industry, you don’t really understand what it’s like.
"Girls who have normal jobs can be overwhelmed – the lifestyle involves a lot of travelling, and I’m also papped, which can cause arguments.
"Having the name Mr Tinder isn’t ideal for a girl who’s looking for Mr Right."
All of this means that it's proving difficult for Stefan, who runs a marketing and talent agency, to find that special someone.
"I don’t have much time for a night in with Netflix or making a meal," he admitted. "In the past, things have faltered because of that.
"I still want to meet that special someone. I want to settle down and concentrate on having a family. I want someone I can share the big experiences and little moments with – someone to wake up next to and to cook a meal for or go for a walk with.
"Am I single now? Past experiences have taught me not to say too much. But I’m happy, having lots of fun, and I’m hopeful for the future."
That's the spirit, mate.
Dominic Smithers