Expert explains troubling downside to bizarre ‘hotwifing’ sex trend that has become more popular with couples

An expert has explained a troubling downside to the ‘hotwifing’ sex trend.

Said to be becoming more popular with couples, the little rejig of their sex lives is apparently saving some relationships.

Shaking things up, it contradicts the more traditional standpoint that marriage means your partner will be the only person you sleep with for the rest of your life – the ‘same penis/vagina forever’ if you’ve also been roped into attending endless hen and stag dos lately.

While polyamory has long, long been a thing, it seems to have moved a bit more into mainstream topics of discussion lately, with shows like Open House: The Great Sex Experiment providing mad moments.

And it seems more people are trying their hand at it, as hotwifing becomes just another form.

There were three of us in this marriage... consensually. (Getty Stock)

What is hotwifing?

So, hotwifing is a type of polyamory that involves heterosexual couples. And basically, it means the ‘hotwife’ will have her partner’s (typically her husband’s) consent to go and sleep with other people.

Then, at the same time, he gets the sexual satisfaction out of the thought of or watching her getting it on with someone else.

Of course, consent is absolutely vital in hotwifing with important boundaries set to avoid any jealousy or infidelity accusations. Both the people in the relationship will class themselves as ethically non-monogamous.

Positives of hotwifing

Hotwifing can allow couples to explore new forms of pleasure with the likes of subversion, power and compersion at play. There’s also the chance to boost intimacy by exploring new sides of themselves and each other.

It can be pretty arousing for both partners, bringing in a bit of ‘spice’.

During an interview with the Holly Randall Unfiltered podcast, content creator and hotwife Holly Jones said she and her partner don’t find it degrading.

“It's not the degrading aspect, it's like, 'Look what I have,’” she explained. “It's kind of the trophy thing, but it fulfils his fantasies so there's nothing disrespectful about it. It's comfortable to us."

The hotwife has to want to be a hotwife. (getty stock)

Expert explains troubling downside

However, the dynamic of a woman being ‘shared’ may not be so positive, particularly so when the husband is the one calling the shots and the ‘hotwife’ doesn’t have equal, agreed power.

Claudia Aguirre told Men’s Health that this can have troubling implications as she explained: “Some men [who are] into the cuckold/hotwife lifestyle give the impression that they are a whole lot less interested in their wives’ sexual freedom and much more into choreographing their own pleasure.

“And, in some instances, a wife may not enjoy being a character in her husband’s scripts.”

That’s exactly why everyone involved needs to be into the hotwifing.