A diagnosed narcissist has revealed the three ways 'you know for sure' that you are not one.
Jacob Skidmore - known online as The Nameless Narcissist - has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and makes content around 'destigmatizing NPD and other personality disorders'.
NPD is defined as a mental illness and is generally associated with a 'pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration and lack of empathy', according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V).
"Btw if you don’t relate to any of these it doesn’t mean you’re a narcissist, I’ve just never met a narcissist who doesn’t do these things," he explained in the caption.
The first sign was about whether your emotions are 'genuine' or not.
"Do you feel like your emotions are genuine?" he said.
"Because for me, whether it comes to a funeral or my friend going through a breakup or it comes to me being happy for somebody's achievement, I'm faking emotions all the time, because I know what's what's expected of me.
"Narcissists don't have those normal emotional reactions, we have to emulate them half the time."
"Two, do you think that every person in the world has equal inherent worth?" Jacob continued.
"Narcissists, think hierarchically. It's an inconceivable to us that two people can have it inherently the same amount of worth. For me, there's always gonna be a better person and a person below."
And for the third point, he asked his followers: "Do you love yourself?
"A lot of people think narcissists love themselves.
"No, we think we're better than everybody else.
"We might love how we look. We might love our intelligence.
"But my internal monologue is a constant stream of 'You're so stupid. Why did you do that?
"You're better than all these other people. How could you be so stupid?'
"There is no self love. There is no self compassion there. It's just grandiosity."
Although he provides informative videos, Jacob insists that he is 'not a clinician' and only speaks about his own experiences.
"I will not attempt to diagnose third parties," he said.
According to the NHS, common features of a personality disorder include:
- being overwhelmed by negative feelings like distress, anxiety, worthlessness or anger
- avoiding other people
- feeling empty and emotionally disconnected
- odd behaviour
- difficulty maintaining stable and close relationships, especially with partners, children and professional carers
- periods of losing contact with reality
If you believe you could have NPD, then it is best to go to your GP for an official diagnosis and treatment.
To check out more of Jacob's videos, click on the following link - The Nameless NarcissistFeatured Image Credit: @the.nameless.narcissist/Instagram